Did you know that your child could be in danger?

[PineappleMama]

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x2 on this one.

Seems like all you can do is wait. Given their financial history it's not likely they'll be able to stay there long. Add in AC being on them about their horses and that'll probably mosey things along. ANY code infraction, call it in. Don't know your area but here thee are SO many tiny things that can and are reported. Heck our city's site has a "Violation of the Week" they actually take pictures of people's homes before the violation was fixed and after and post them on the internet for all to see... of course my city also has the Code Rangers... they're just a wee bit uptight to say the least. Thank you Jerry.

But point is, snoop in your codes and figure out what you can report, stay within the law, but do your duty as a responsible citizen and report any and all infractions. Grass too high, animals without shelter... anything that's on the books.

 

[dandelionheart]

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Ditto.

Ugh... read the full thread... just makes me sick. I really feel for your little girl. It really does feel like no one feels for the sexual abuse survivors, they just don't get it. I say that as a survivor... It may help your daughter (I know it did/does me) if she can talk to someone who has been through abuse as well, group therapy or something (or even a blog that you screen first). Not feeling alone is a biggy. And I'm worried about homeschooling - not the educational or protective side of it, but it may make the alone part harder to bear... Please have a friend or something come over regularly. I felt so isolated before because we lived out in the country and my best friend was my brother and I couldn't really talk to him about it - but at least I had school (even though I couldn't talk about it there). I'm not saying homeschool is a bad thing, it certainly sounds better than being around her abuser, just to take extra measures. She can pull through, don't doubt that. I have an awesome life, husband, sons, pets... She can do this and so can you.

 

[PineappleMama]

^Well you would think... but evidently not.... unless of course that's part of the reason the parents split up??

 

[Camelot Farms]

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Ditto.

Ugh... read the full thread... just makes me sick. I really feel for your little girl. It really does feel like no one feels for the sexual abuse survivors, they just don't get it. I say that as a survivor... It may help your daughter (I know it did/does me) if she can talk to someone who has been through abuse as well, group therapy or something (or even a blog that you screen first). Not feeling alone is a biggy. And I'm worried about homeschooling - not the educational or protective side of it, but it may make the alone part harder to bear... Please have a friend or something come over regularly. I felt so isolated before because we lived out in the country and my best friend was my brother and I couldn't really talk to him about it - but at least I had school (even though I couldn't talk about it there). I'm not saying homeschool is a bad thing, it certainly sounds better than being around her abuser, just to take extra measures. She can pull through, don't doubt that. I have an awesome life, husband, sons, pets... She can do this and so can you.

Thank you for sharing that and for the insight. We do have DD involved in several activities....Karate 2-4x's per week. She has a couple of friends that she sees regularly plus we have lots of BYCers coming in and out on bird business and she has a Mentor through her inhome counseling program that takes her out for 5 hours per week to wherever she wants to go...swimming, mall, McDonalds, park, etc. So we are making sure that she is well rounded and given lots of opportunities for socialization. She is never bored...lol.

She is doing very well considering all that has happened and is still happening. She has started closing our front window curtains so she doesnt have to see them when she is in there. Poor lil thing.
She is a trooper though. <3

 

[Nekhebet]

You know, if all else fails, the animal control, violation reporting, letters to people, requests for aid etc doesn't help and the situation was really unbearable...I think I'd have to tell my kid: "....listen...I'm no recommending it, but if you were to feel so moved, I would probably not be too angry if you decided to kick her butt."

Of course, then your daughter might get into trouble, but it might do her nerves some good.

My daughter is about to belt test in Tae Kwondo and she is three from black. In a few years, we will move on to another martial art, and probably a third. I will do the same with my son. I told her in no uncertain terms that no one is to ever touch her that way, and she has some of the tools to deal with any problems that might occur, and HOPEFULLY the confidence.

Anyway, the other person who mentioned it is probably right....with the spotty financial thing (late on payments etc) and any annoyances you can throw her way, she'll probably be out of there soon or later, more likely sooner. In the meantime...that corn wall didn't sound like too bad of an idea...

 

[Camelot Farms]

Well, after 12 days of no food, her horses have torn through the fence and are now happily grazing in the other neighbors front yard.

Now that they know that her fence is a JOKE... Here is a visual of the posts every 12 feet / \\ l / __ \\ .... they wont stay in there for a minute.

She should be home about 5 oclock. I just hope its not to dark to notice that they are missing....of course for thier sake I hope she does cause they can fill their bellies.

 

[1shelby1]

Just read through most pages -so sorry about this happening to your daughter and your family.Don't know if you have considered this but ADA?The American Disabilitiy Act might be a way to address your daughter's limited school/social life now that this has happened.The ADA supports not only physical but intellectual disabilities,and you would be her advocate.The school and the other parent are preventing her from excersizing her rights as an American citizen to get an education and have a healthy,enjoyable life.I know you are homeschooling,but it was your intension to have your DD attend school for her own good.The school should be trying everything they can to 'offer accommodation'for her-especially since she is now more challenged to enjoy her life.Also it is causing family financial hardship.
Squeaky wheel-she is in your good hands !Best...

 

[jbowyer01]

I dont have any advise, I wish to heaven I did. My heart aches for your daughter, you and your DH. I'll keep ya'll in my prayers. (You sound like a wonderful mommy)

 

[PineappleMama]

I just had a disturbing thought come flying at me out of no where.

You said that they seem convinced that the victim is someone from their apartments... well, what if the reason they think that is because when confronted with the allegations that's the FIRST victim that came to the child's mind... and since already caught she fessed up to it? But, not wanting to make things worse on herself didn't mention any others? Denied any others... or even made it the apartment friends' fault?? If it was your kid who would you believe... your own right? Your DD said SHE did this to HER... what if the predator said the same about some poor girl in the apartment and that's why the parents are acting the way they are... standing by their DD, just like you... and trying to move away from the (in their mind) real predator... and when their DD realized who was next door she was too chicken to admit that it was another of her victims.

God I hope that isn't the case... but my overthinking, paranoid, nutcase mind just went off on this tangent... all the more reason CPS, or SOMEONE should be investigating to find out WHERE she was exposed to this... sorry if I caused more stress, but if there's any chance there WAS more than one victim it needs to be hunted down...

 

[Chickie'sMoma]

i have been getting this vibe that the young girl is very manipulative and has her family wrapped around her pinky finger.

this is similar to a situation that i grew up with in my neighborhood many years ago as a kid! it was found that the girl's dad was the molester and 'daddy's little girl' was so in love with him that she tried to blame everything on her step dad and other family members! the girl was a headcase to begin with and did some freaky things now that i remember everything about her. i never could get used to her craziness or what i thought was a bunch of stories. till everything started coming out and it was found to be true about things she had done to others. good thing we didn't have the internet when i was a kid because i wouldn't be surprised if she would be looking at that stuff. now this girl has grown up to be a stripper and no one is surprised that grew up knowing her!

have you asked some of your dd's friends if they know of any 'stories' they've heard about this young girl? it might be a start to finding out if there are other victims that are too shy to come forward. you might find out there is more than one other victim out there and putting out the word with your dd's friends to have them or the parents contact you to set up some sort of suit might be a good start.

it really gets me that this is not considered some sort of crime! at any age, being a bully or making anyone into a victim is just not right! couldn't the FBI look into the computer records and check to see if this kid or their home address might be looking at child porn? that might get a fire lit under some law enforcement butts if that was the case! this could also be why the dad has left the scene! he might be frustrated that this has been going on and nothing has been done with the kid to correct it! or he could be the one preying on the kid to begin with!