Wow. Just... wow.So to add to the helping yourself talk I have to add a story.
We got new neighbors when I was growing up. A few years later the wife's grandmother passed away and they decided that they would bury her in the field that borders my parents property. My uncle also owns property that connects to the burial site. They told the hearse driver to go to my uncles property at the end of the road and drive through the field. A field with cows on private property. My uncle found the driver taking down the electric fence.