RFF - she's so cute!! Swings are one of the greatest inventions ever! She seems so happy there.
Expectant parent club! Where the pregnant people hang out.
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Suzette,
! Mrs.K pretty much covered what I would have said. I'm sorry you have to deal with this though, and hope you can get it worked out. I'm sure hoping he sees the light. Whether it's the light from finally seeing the error of his ways on this particular subject, or the light from the stars he sees after you try to knock some sense into him!
Rare, I do believe that if you were to look up "cuteness overload" , it would have Audreys' picture. I am loving all that hair and the precious little face. I'm betting you can't take your eyes off of her!
DD isnt dialated past a one and isnt thinning out yet so they will not be inducing this week. they will check her again next week... the baby is in position . dd is just not progressing
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Thanks MrsK!
I would try to talk to him, but Im just afraid his response will be the same. In the end of our last talk, he just literally threw his arms up in the air and said, "FINE, I wont go, will that make you happy?" Its like, uh, duh... its NOT about making me HAPPY, its about the fact that you would even consider leaving me and all of us at such a time!
He KNOWS all the issues (not being able to drive the kids, being in danger of premature labor, needing to slow down, and just being plain miserable at that stage of pregnancy). This is his 7TH CHILD for goodness sakes! He should know the drill, right?
I dont want to keep fighting with him over it. I dont want him to resent ME for needing him here, but I really would like him to WANT to stay home. At this point I dont even know if he is going to go or not. And did I mention he's going out of town for 2 or 3 days next week? He doesnt get that those times when he is away, I have to work 3 times as hard to do it all with no help, so I get super exhausted and cant catch up on my rest.
Right now I am genuinely afraid I am going to go into labor exhausted and not be able to handle it well. I think I am getting pre-labor anixety!
The biggest thing that caught my attention in this combo of posts is "I am genuinely afraid". Our husbands have this innate instinct to protect us, but most of us don't ever give them the chance. I am guilty of this for sure. Like MrsK said, they get real used to us being VERY independent and not needing them to accomplish much of anything. I predict, if you can get up the will and let your very strong guard down.... get him after all the kids are in bed, and say very quietly, and simply "I am afraid" he will begin to listen. DO NOT WHINE. Do not say anything after until he asks "Of what?" Then tell him SIMPLY why, and WITH NO WHINING! Use "I" or "We" statements, not "You" statements. Don't tell him what he should already know or what has happened in the past. Speak with him about THIS pregnancy and THIS time period. You are not the same person you were with the other 6. Each child changes a mother. Just be honest with him and leave out all of the details, give him the big picture. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!
Thanks MrsK!
I would try to talk to him, but Im just afraid his response will be the same. In the end of our last talk, he just literally threw his arms up in the air and said, "FINE, I wont go, will that make you happy?" Its like, uh, duh... its NOT about making me HAPPY, its about the fact that you would even consider leaving me and all of us at such a time!
He KNOWS all the issues (not being able to drive the kids, being in danger of premature labor, needing to slow down, and just being plain miserable at that stage of pregnancy). This is his 7TH CHILD for goodness sakes! He should know the drill, right?
I dont want to keep fighting with him over it. I dont want him to resent ME for needing him here, but I really would like him to WANT to stay home. At this point I dont even know if he is going to go or not. And did I mention he's going out of town for 2 or 3 days next week? He doesnt get that those times when he is away, I have to work 3 times as hard to do it all with no help, so I get super exhausted and cant catch up on my rest.
Right now I am genuinely afraid I am going to go into labor exhausted and not be able to handle it well. I think I am getting pre-labor anixety!
The biggest thing that caught my attention in this combo of posts is "I am genuinely afraid". Our husbands have this innate instinct to protect us, but most of us don't ever give them the chance. I am guilty of this for sure. Like MrsK said, they get real used to us being VERY independent and not needing them to accomplish much of anything. I predict, if you can get up the will and let your very strong guard down.... get him after all the kids are in bed, and say very quietly, and simply "I am afraid" he will begin to listen. DO NOT WHINE. Do not say anything after until he asks "Of what?" Then tell him SIMPLY why, and WITH NO WHINING! Use "I" or "We" statements, not "You" statements. Don't tell him what he should already know or what has happened in the past. Speak with him about THIS pregnancy and THIS time period. You are not the same person you were with the other 6. Each child changes a mother. Just be honest with him and leave out all of the details, give him the big picture. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!
suzettetx - It appears that a lot of us have the same type of husband and that we are a bunch of independant ladies. I don't have any words of wisdom for you, just hugs
I have struggled with my DH a lot since last year. and still do, after many arguments he is starting to understand that I cannot supply a quality life for my son without him, but I still do everything. I may just mention to him that just because you have done this before doesn't mean that you are prepared to go it alone this time. It is a scary thing and what if you need surgery? I needed my DH after surgery and would have been scared if he wasn't waiting for me with Shane when I got done. Besides...What would Shane been doing for the 2 hours it took for my blood pressure to recover without my DH? Sitting in some nursery, all alone for the first 3 hours of his life? Thank goodness he was there!
Good luck girl! No judgement here...we all have moments like these with our DH's
I have struggled with my DH a lot since last year. and still do, after many arguments he is starting to understand that I cannot supply a quality life for my son without him, but I still do everything. I may just mention to him that just because you have done this before doesn't mean that you are prepared to go it alone this time. It is a scary thing and what if you need surgery? I needed my DH after surgery and would have been scared if he wasn't waiting for me with Shane when I got done. Besides...What would Shane been doing for the 2 hours it took for my blood pressure to recover without my DH? Sitting in some nursery, all alone for the first 3 hours of his life? Thank goodness he was there!
Good luck girl! No judgement here...we all have moments like these with our DH's
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Perfectly said
Yesterday, I hit 37 weeks. So I finally decided to snap a picture. Sorry it's sort of blurry. My phone camera isn't the best. I could have gotten DH to take one for me, but he refuses to do it unless I show my bare belly.. For his own use, fine. But for public viewing, uhmm, NO!
Anyway, here is my basketball smuggling mugshot.
And while I was celebrating 37 weeks, along with the fact that I have been driving my honda accord since January 1999 and it has become a bit unstable....... This followed me home.
It isn't new, but it's new to me. It's a 2007 Ford Edge.
And while I was celebrating 37 weeks, along with the fact that I have been driving my honda accord since January 1999 and it has become a bit unstable....... This followed me home.
You look great!! 37 weeks - must feel good to be almost done!
I love your new car, too! Its always fun to get a new-to-you car (also the only kind I've ever gotten).
I love your new car, too! Its always fun to get a new-to-you car (also the only kind I've ever gotten).
Ms.FuzzyButts :
Yesterday, I hit 37 weeks. So I finally decided to snap a picture. Sorry it's sort of blurry. My phone camera isn't the best. I could have gotten DH to take one for me, but he refuses to do it unless I show my bare belly.. For his own use, fine. But for public viewing, uhmm, NO!
Anyway, here is my basketball smuggling mugshot.
https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/uploads/40643_37_weeks.jpg
And while I was celebrating 37 weeks, along with the fact that I have been driving my honda accord since January 1999 and it has become a bit unstable....... This followed me home.
It isn't new, but it's new to me. It's a 2007 Ford Edge.
https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/uploads/40643_07_ford_edge_sel.jpg
How do you Southern gals always look so fabulous?!
Yesterday, I hit 37 weeks. So I finally decided to snap a picture. Sorry it's sort of blurry. My phone camera isn't the best. I could have gotten DH to take one for me, but he refuses to do it unless I show my bare belly.. For his own use, fine. But for public viewing, uhmm, NO!
https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/uploads/40643_37_weeks.jpg
And while I was celebrating 37 weeks, along with the fact that I have been driving my honda accord since January 1999 and it has become a bit unstable....... This followed me home.
https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/uploads/40643_07_ford_edge_sel.jpg
How do you Southern gals always look so fabulous?!
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