Family Matters...

[FarmerChick]

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Did you think it applied to you?

I am saying revenge is not sweet, for anyone involved.
revenge is selfish in itself....people think about their reasons for revenge never considering others at all.

just my view on it

I have no clue who you meant it for..why not be woman enough to just say it? You must like to play games or something..

yet you judge others?

Personally, what you or anyone else thinks means nothing to me.. I just cant stand cowards that hide behind their words.. say what you mean..and who you mean it for..

I am not a coward as much as you are just plain nasty in your wording!

 

[Dar]

to the OP:

Was Rebecca born in the same state as you are in now?

 

[redhen]

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I have no clue who you meant it for..why not be woman enough to just say it? You must like to play games or something..

yet you judge others?

Personally, what you or anyone else thinks means nothing to me.. I just cant stand cowards that hide behind their words.. say what you mean..and who you mean it for..

I am not a coward as much as you are just plain nasty in your wording!

ha! no more nasty then calling someone selfish...or vengeful.
lets drop it..PM me if you have anymore to say..i'm done. I dont want to get her thread shut down..

 

[FarmerChick]

no more nasty than you wanting to "take this outside" and thru PMs

I certainly am not PMing you cause I have nothing to say to you truly.

Yes I agree......we stop now.

 

[texasgal]

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I am not a coward as much as you are just plain nasty in your wording!

ha! no more nasty then calling someone selfish...or vengeful.
lets drop it..PM me if you have anymore to say..i'm done. I dont want to get her thread shut down..

Whoa .. she didn't call ANYONE out .. she just stated her concern for motive when making a decision that could affect many lives. Why are you taking this so personal? Step back and take a deep breath ..

.. we love you ..

 

[smileyfacecat]

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Yes, to my and my family's knowledge, she was.

 

[redhen]

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ha! no more nasty then calling someone selfish...or vengeful.
lets drop it..PM me if you have anymore to say..i'm done. I dont want to get her thread shut down..

Whoa .. she didn't call ANYONE out .. she just stated her concern for motive when making a decision that could affect many lives. Why are you taking this so personal? Step back and take a deep breath ..

.. we love you ..

Shhh..we have a truce..

 

[texasgal]

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Whoa .. she didn't call ANYONE out .. she just stated her concern for motive when making a decision that could affect many lives. Why are you taking this so personal? Step back and take a deep breath ..

.. we love you ..

Shhh..we have a truce..

Allow me to duct tape myself ...

 

[redhen]

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Shhh..we have a truce..

Allow me to duct tape myself ...

 

[Dar]

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Yes, to my and my family's knowledge, she was.

you can google search the MA adoptee registry.

IF she wants to be found that may be a good start.

I dont want you to reveal any of her personal information on line here... but if you know:
Her DOB
Location of birth
Name at birth
Name of both parents

IF she wants to be found then it may not be that hard

There are a lot of registry's that are free and these are the ones I used in finding my DH's family.... IF she wants to be found then obviously she knows she was adopted,

I keep saying IF because if she does not want to be found it wont be easy and in that case I would suggest let the past be the past even tho it may hurt a lot... by all means put your "lookong for" information out there and keep it updated with contact info and if her children know about her adoption who knows it may be a niece or nephew who finds you

If you want some help and suggestions please do not hesitate to contact me....

ETA:
Laws are different everywhere.. but here we were able to file for a "non identifying information package" this gave us information like:
how many siblings my dh's mom had
how old her father was at the time of DH's birth
any knows medical information
ect...

the information you may be able to get through proper government channels may be:
adoptive parents occupations
age of adoptive parents
religion
where they were from...( British, Irish.. ect..)