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So true. I remember one of the first foster children I got... a 14 year old girl. She had been given up for adoption at birth, then abused by her adoptive parents. When she found out she was going up for adoption the second time, her response was, "I've had two moms... why would I want another?" It broke my heart.
Two days ago, this same young lady paid me a visit. She is now going on 18 years old and still in the foster care system. She chose to remain in foster care instead of being adopted. She still calls me MOM and visits often. She says she misses us and misses being part of a family. Not all foster parents actually blend their foster children in to their familes. I always did. I worry about these children and what kind of parents they will be. Hopefully we've made a difference somehow.
I stated in a post earlier that my husband and I were taking a break.. we only have 1 foster child presently. We're really burned out. It's been an emotional roller coaster for us. A part of us wants to quit. Another part of us worry about all those kids out there who need us. My husband keeps telling me we can't save the whole world. Wouldn't it be nice if we could?
We had to give up fostering when we adopted our last two babies. We always fostered very young children and then just very medically fragile infants. When we gave up fostering I started having nightmares where I'd see little baby seats with crying infants sitting in the middle of the street or on top of moving cars or on roofs....you get the idea, babies in precarious life or death situations that only I could save them from. I finally realized that it was pretty arrogant to think I was the only person in the world out there who could help those babies but I still wish I could still have those tiny babies in the house. Miss those two am feedings.
