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ICallMyselfCherie' :
I don't know where the OP went, but . . . I think after 18 years it needs to be done the right way.
What I mean by that is, I think it would be important for it not casual or flippant. When I say this, I'm speaking from being with my boyfriend for, granted, only four years, but having all the insecurities I have being with him for so long without his having considered marriage with me. It could be very, very different with the OP's girlfriend, but just in my situation I know that it would be important for my boyfriend to make a proposal pretty heartfelt and special. I don't mean in an expensive way, at all. I don't care if I got a ring from a gum ball machine and got married by an internet minister, just so long as he made it clear he felt the way about me a man should feel about a woman he's going to marry.
The worst thing that could happen would be if he asked her like, "Well, we've been together 18 years, I think it's time we get married. You can't say no to that, right?"
Well at the risk of sounding mushy, I have to agree with you wholeheartedly. If he is going to do it he had better do it right, it would be not a good thing if she feels he has to because of the time invested. She does deserve the best he can manage and it doesn't have to be much for most good women. I didn't have the best of everything when I said those words knowing that if she wanted when we were older and my career blossumed she could have whatever she desired.
So OP make good Man or she'll tell all her friends how lame the propasal was, you certainly don't want to be on the next episode of Jerry Springer's bad proposal show.
I don't know where the OP went, but . . . I think after 18 years it needs to be done the right way.
What I mean by that is, I think it would be important for it not casual or flippant. When I say this, I'm speaking from being with my boyfriend for, granted, only four years, but having all the insecurities I have being with him for so long without his having considered marriage with me. It could be very, very different with the OP's girlfriend, but just in my situation I know that it would be important for my boyfriend to make a proposal pretty heartfelt and special. I don't mean in an expensive way, at all. I don't care if I got a ring from a gum ball machine and got married by an internet minister, just so long as he made it clear he felt the way about me a man should feel about a woman he's going to marry.
The worst thing that could happen would be if he asked her like, "Well, we've been together 18 years, I think it's time we get married. You can't say no to that, right?"
Well at the risk of sounding mushy, I have to agree with you wholeheartedly. If he is going to do it he had better do it right, it would be not a good thing if she feels he has to because of the time invested. She does deserve the best he can manage and it doesn't have to be much for most good women. I didn't have the best of everything when I said those words knowing that if she wanted when we were older and my career blossumed she could have whatever she desired.
So OP make good Man or she'll tell all her friends how lame the propasal was, you certainly don't want to be on the next episode of Jerry Springer's bad proposal show.
