Granny I have been thinking (at least accused of that occasionally) Your daughter being "clean" might well cause Idiot sperm donor to have a panic attack. I get the feeling that when "clean" your daughter is a very strong willed person (after all look at her mother) and might realize that thing have to change or maybe even leave IDIOT. By her being "dirty" it is more easy for him to control her and make himself feel more like a man and when something goes wrong its not his fault its the drugs or hers. Tuff love but also understanding is the way to go IMHO. Also the "real" world is a scary place especially for some one who hasn't really been "with it" for a number of years.