Having this child now reassures me of some things.

[chicks4kids]

Let him fall asleep in your arms........just once so he knows he's safe.

 

[Liamm_1]

Without knowing the 3 year history of this child, I can't suggest much. Other than to give him as much love as you can, since he hasn't received it. And hopefully the mother and father will be punished for being pieces of garbage.

 

[debilorrah]

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Oh we have several times. He has been a frequent visitor here since his birth. Now that he is getting to a stage in his life where he can acknowledge fear and hurt, he certainly is doing so.

 

[debilorrah]

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Father has been in prison since before Robert's birth. The mother is also my step kids mom. She should have been fixed a LONG time ago. This is her 6th child and she has never raised one of them past 5 years old.

 

[NoseyChickens]

Just love him Debi. Make sure everyone in the house is on the same page, that discipline in consistant with everyone working with him. Give him a comfort zone. Our girls had stuffed bears they picked out on their own when we first got them. They took them everywhere, slept with them. It hepled. it's a long long road. Even now things can pop up out of the blue. But it gets easier. He just has to believe her is safe and loved. It will happen a little at a time. It is obvious he is loved there. Consistancey is so important because it will help him feel secure. Keep doing what you're doing.

 

[debilorrah]

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Thank you!!! I think he needs to pick out his own comfort item. He is soooo all over the map about what he likes it isn't even funny!!! He is loved here. He should stay here forever.

 

[Laurajean]

Hey Deb, between BYC and Facebook I keep reading bits and pieces of this story. Is there a thread where I can read the whole story of what happened and how you came to be in the care of this little guy?

 

[Liamm_1]

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Father has been in prison since before Robert's birth. The mother is also my step kids mom. She should have been fixed a LONG time ago. This is her 6th child and she has never raised one of them past 5 years old.

sounds like an ex of mine, pure trash. My prayers for the little one.

 

[debilorrah]

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I will PM you...

 

[Laurajean]

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I will PM you...

Thanks. (I meant to say how he became in the care of you, not the other way around, but maybe it does go both ways!)