Having this child now reassures me of some things.

[redhen]

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Nope.. not in my state anyways..
They have a gay couple fostering in my town..
Also..many single people are foster parents.

Ok that is good, because this is CA and they usually let ANYONE have kids.

Its not that easy here..
They do expect your life to be lived a certain way..because you'll have a child in your care.. (at least for the company that i work through)
But as for being married.. as far i've seen.. they dont judge by that..
They mostly want to be sure that the child will have a stable/safe/normal/healthy house hold to live in...
You can have all those things and not be married to your partner. So i'm certain that you will be FINE!
Its really not that hard at all to get into once you get past all background and house checks and stuff...

ALSO... you will be taking in a semi-relative.. in an emergency type of situation.. Sooo they may just do a basic background/cori check for the time being.... not sure how that works..
But i know that my ding bat cousin had drugs (pot) in her system when she had her baby.. and they took her baby from the hospital to a foster home for a few days until they did a quick background check on my aunt and uncle... they had the baby in their care with-in a week...
So... it may not take you that long... being family and all... and your not actually trying to become foster parents... you just want the child in your care...
Does that make sense?

 

[debilorrah]

Yes that makes sense! Thanks Wendy!

 

[NoseyChickens]

In AZ you go through an agency that licenses and trains you to foster/ adopt. You have to do I think 16 hrs of training a year. That includes the inital classes learning about the program and CPR/First Aid a lot of times. And they will come out and do a home study and safety check (outlet covers, hazzards,and what not. You will most likely need a good fire extinguisher and first aid kit, and smoke alarms) You can call me any time Debi. You have my number right? Call your local CPS office and find out who you would go through to get licensed.

 

[NoseyChickens]

check out this link-

http://www.ccld.ca.gov/res/pdf/DirectoryContractedCounties.pdf

 

[redhen]

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Yeah..same here.. sort of.

BUT... here may be her easy way out of all that mess....
She does not want to be licensed.. she just wants the child (family member)..placed in her care...
I dont think that she will have to do the WHOLE foster care liscense thing...

Maybe.. not sure how they do it in CA...
But, many children are placed with family members they dont have to be licensed...

 

[NoseyChickens]

Usually even family has to qualify. Our oldest daughters didnt have a single bio family member that was 1 -either willing to or 2 -was ABLE to pass the inspection to take the girls.

 

[debilorrah]

Our biggest issue with with CPS. We actually thought that was the way to go, placed 5 seperate calls and they did nothing. One time they came out for about 5 minutes and left.

Another time, Sara called the police when she found her drugs and needles in the apartment. All they did was take the stuff and leave. Un-freakin-beliveable. I hate to say it, but I think the child would have to be injured for him to even be temporarily placed!!!!

So Ken will keep working on her to sign him over. Eventually she will give in.

 

[redhen]

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Yes..they have to pass a basic cory check and house inspection..etc..
But.. they dont have to be licensed..
Thats what i'm trying to say...
Think about all the grandmothers that take in their druggie daughters child or aunts that take in their sisters kids......
They dont have to be licensed ... they do usually have to go in front of a judge at some point though... for guardianship reasons...

 

[Slinkytoys]

Was the mother doing drugs while she was pregnant? It sounds as though the child needs some professional help. Loving on -- then hurting animals, dramatic change of emotions; these really need to be addressed. Holding him, loving him and taking care of him will help......but it sounds as though he needs a bit more. I've worked with some abused women, have seen this problem with the kids. CA should have some decent programs available. Best of luck to you and yours.
I will be visiting Phelen soon. I have friends who live on Rapture Rd.
Slinky

 

[debilorrah]

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Phelan is really close to us!!!!

Our issue right now is that we do not have medical rights for this child, who has NEVER had any vaccines. We are aware he needs help. What we need is for this POS mother to sign him over so we can get his shots, go to a dentist, have some evaluations done.

Let me know when you are nearby in Phelan. Maybe we can meet for a meal!!!