Ok, I'm appealing to the collective wisdom of all my chicken buddies! And sorry in advance if this is too long, just want you to have a clear picture to put your 2 cents in on. I have 3 kiddos, DS 16, DD 14 & DD 11. Currently they receive a commission that equels half their age. For each dollar, they have a weekly chore. If you don't do the chore (5 out of 7 days is acceptable) you don't get that buck. WELL, DD 14 & DS 16 split the dishes, each have 3 nights, and I take the extra one. We don't have a dishwasher, this is washing the dishes by hand and putting away when dry. Mind you, we use a lot of throw away plates and cups, so it's not usually a horrible job. If dinner is at 5pm, we're done by 5:30 pm. I tell DD that it's her night for dishes . . . . "I have to go to the bathroom". OK, 10 minutes, 15 minutes go by. I often forget to police her, and she'll sneak off to her room quietly when she leaves the bathroom (both rooms upstairs, I'm downstairs). So I catch on and go find her, it's 6pm - "Time to do your dishes", she comes down and can piddle this job out for HOURS! Rinsing the sink, talking to anyone who comes in range, playing with the dog, sneaking off to the Living room to watch tv with siblings when I'm not looking, more bathroom breaks, deciding she's hungry because she didn't get enough dinner so now needs a PB & J, ETC.!!! 8 pm arrives, and dishes are not done, or partly done, kitchen is a wreck still, and she' got to get to bed (bus arrives at 6:30 am, she's hard enough to get up, but overtired is really bad.) I've wasted a good portion of my evening trying to stick close enough to the kitchen to keep an eye on her, but far enough away that she doesn't strike up conversation with me as another way to dilly dally. So, we've tried: - now you have to do tomorrow's dishes too (she doesn't care, repeats the procedure, maybe even with a whine about needing to do homework as a new distraction, and we have the same result -- but now TWO days of dishes piled up.) -you don't get your dollar for this chore this week, AND your brother still gets his, because it's not his fault he couldn't do his 3 nights of dishes, you never got yours done and out of the way! - you can't do your fun activity you were planning this weekend (spend the night with friend, go to sister's BB game, have a friend over, etc.) We don't have cell phones to take away, or big game systems (just a gameboy, and she only plays once in a blue moon anyway.) She's rarely online, and spends a lot of time reading or writing, there's about an hour of tv she likes in the evening before bed. I just haven't figured out what motivates her. MInd you, she's 14, maybe just causing me to have a melt down over this IS what motivates her, LOL! But if any of you have some creative ideas that worked for you I'd sure be open to hearing them. I'm at my wits end, and she's only 14, I've got a few more years of emotional meltdowns to get through - I can't let this one beat me, LOL!