Help! My elderly mother is making me crazy!

[NinnyGillaspie]

Heaven's No. I just want her to be happy, and healthy. I am seriously thinking about a short visit to the new friend, and establishing some rules. However, the friend will tell her that I made a visit, and all _____ will break loose. Hubby and I have been paying on 1 acre of land from her for years. Our home is on the land. I'm sure it's well paid off, but she won't give me a deed, just in case my DH leaves, and tries to take half. This is so ridiculous!!

 

[Beekissed]

Now THAT makes everything different....

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Quite frankly, a new friend, that she met via telephone would have my "SOMETHING'S NOT RIGHT" sensors buzzing like crazy. And to be gving away FURNITURE to someone she just met? Or for that someone to accept it? This is WAY, WAY out of norm. Give away a batch of cookies fresh out of the oven, a dozen fresh eggs, flowers from the garden: sure, but not major, expensive items. You need to notify Adult Protective Services and ask their advice. I would assume that she needs her furniture, at least until she passes away. I would bet she is giving away money, as well.

As for the land, make sure all your records are together, showing exactly what was agreed to and all the payments you have made. I very much hope that there was some written contract or agreement.

 

[NinnyGillaspie]

Yes, there is an agreement on paper. She has now backed off her side of the agreement to give me a clear deed, because she says if my DH leaves me, she'll lose half the acre. Now I either get an attorney and make matters worse, or give her $100.00 a month for "lot rent". She's a vindictive woman. DH says if it gets too bad, we'll load up in the travel trailer, and go to the state park, chickens and all, lol. Gotta laugh at such a sight.!

 

[Beekissed]

Wow! I've met just such people holding property and things over their kids' heads and it ain't pretty. I know you probably got a lot invested in your property...but nothing would make me stay there and put up with that level of terrorism.

Sorry you have such a mom as that...

 

[redhen]

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Well, if there is an agreement on paper, you shouldnt have to worry...no?? She CANT back out of it..

 

[sourland]

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X 2 No one is going to be in the position of 'owning' me. No how, no way.

 

[NinnyGillaspie]

Oh yes, We have made this 1 acre our home, and strive to make the most naturally of our "plot". We have greatly improved the property. Our house is old and cute, and paid for. She won't make us move, then she'd have nobody that gives a care like I do. DH is about fed up. He knows she's mentally ill, whether she's faking or not. Normal folks just don't behave like that , esp at her age. She is the Drama Queen of Pine Prairie Community. Sometimes I feel ashamed.

 

[Beekissed]

Not your fault, Hon.

We ALL have crazy families! Mine are among the craziest!

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Speak to an attorney, and find out what you need to do to protect your rights to the property, and what if anything you must do to acquire title. No reason that your mother needs to know that you have done this.

Is your mom mentally competant? If you are not sure, you need to find out how to force the issue and get a legal opinion. That way you can protect her and yourself.