Help they won't stop bullying my sister!!!!!

[joebryant]

Ninny, from all you say, I surmise that your sister might eventually be in great danger. Before this escalates any farther, I would go to court with the text evidence and get a restraining order against the leaders. Then the first time it reared its ugly head, I'd prosecute that individual(s) to the hilt as an example to the others (whom you'd be doing a favor).

 

[FrChuckW]

Ninny, I am sorry that your sister has to go through this situation. Definitely document all the comments, text messages etc. Get your sister into some counseling. The Martial Arts idea is an excellent one, as it will build her self esteem and confidence. Even though it is a small rural school, there is no excuse for this kind of behavior.

If the school authorities will not step in and take the corrective action then most definitely consult an attorney and bring a suit against the school board, the teachers, those students and their parents. If necessary sue the entire town council as well.

My oldest niece went through this when she was in High School and was being bullied not only by the girls in her class but some of the football players as well. Once I found out about it, I instructed her in some simple martial arts moves. It all stopped when the captain of the football team found himself flat on his back in the school halls in front of the other students after she used a judo throw on him that I taught her.

Unfortunately, my youngest nephew went through the same thing, but I was unaware of his problems until it was too late. My brother never told me that he was dealing with depression and he eventually committed suicide. So please, get your sister some help, no matter what it takes.

 

[ninny]

Thanks everybody so much!! I will talk to my mom about the blocking on her myspace. I don't have one and didn't know you could do that. She is going to a girl empowerment class at the ymca. I'll keep you updated.

 

[deb1]

Ninny, I was hoping that you were in NC but you are too far away from me. I have a 12 year old-soon to be 13 year old- daughter who would probably be happy to befriend your sister. She has gone out of her way to befriend a girl at church because the girl said she had no friends.

Of course, you sister would have to love all animals, including bugs and not mind occasionally listening to one of the many novels that my daughter is filling up her spiral notebook with.

After reading your post, I am so thankful that we homeschool. Both my daughters have so much more confidence and individuality then I had at their age.(I am not putting down anyone who sends their kids to public school either. I know some great kids who weren't homeschooled)

 

[ThaChickenGuru]

reminds me a lot of my early high school years, best advice I can give you is they do it for the satisfaction. They are lacking something in themselves, so they find someone else to make feel bad so they feel better.

How to deal with it is tricky, you sis is at the age where shes trying to find where she fits in. And eventually she will find a group of friends who like her for her. And that helps with the bullying, because then shes not alone. Being alone makes her a easy target for bullies.

The best way to deal with it, is take away the fun for the bullies. Start laughing with them, say something like you know thats kinda funny i never thought about that. Then go back to minding your own buisiness and ignore them, after a few times of it not being fun anymore they will move on.

Now if they are physically bullying your sister, my advice is simply stand up to them. its not fun and its kinda scary, but once you show your gonna stand your ground. That takes away the fun of making someone feel bad so you feel better, also if she cant do that then she needs to talk with a teacher she trusts and see if they maybe can work out a different seating arrangement, or anything that keeps them apart theres always something that can be done. Basically she just needs to show them she isnt scared of them, and that what they say dont bother her. And they will move on to someone else to pick on. Thats just how it works, and when she sees them picking on someone else, befriend that person. Before she knows it she will have friends she never thought she would have, and there is always safety in numbers

Keep your chin up kiddo, good for you looking out for your sister.

TCG

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

Tell, tell, tell. Tell all the adults you can. Yes, I know that some adults will not step in, but you must at least tell.

Martial arts - agreed it was the best thing I ever did for myself.

Odd Girl Out and Queen Bees and Wanna Bees. Both good books for girls.

 

[Missouri Maiden]

Sorry, about your sister I wish I had some advice, but everyone in my school is relativley nice so I don't have any experence. Does she have any friends she can turn to in her school? Or any teachers?

 

[stephys_fluffybutts]

I am reading this and I am honestly not surprised. I was bullied even before...all the way thru k-6
I moved b4 i started 7th. It was hard enough. Then being bullied on a regular basis was bad enough. My Mom tried to talk to the teachers and the school board but they didnt want to listen. The teachers were even starting to bully me. I was punched and was always being threatened by the older kids...Finally my Mom took me out after 3 months and home schooled me. Even after I was very depressed...

I was always taken as the "wierd" kid......

Now I look back on it and I notice that it wasn't my fault. But instead the others that did these things to me...


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[ninny]

My mom got here report card and she is get D in 4 things ! She is so grounded. ITs mostly because she is not turning things in. My mom is talking to all her teachers about this and they are suppose to keep her informed.

 

[deb1]

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It must be very hard for your sister to be constantly bullied at school and still make good grades. I know that I was bullied. I also had an abusive mom so I didn't always work up to my potential.