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Very much so
Joking! You are very mature but for some reason my head makes almost everyone on BYC in that range. Especially everyone with the best senses of humor. Imagine what I thought when I found out how old sourland was
In my head he is 36
Ok that is funny!!!!! You can go on thinking that if you like, but I do have a pic posted on page 30 something in the show your mug thread in this forum.
Well I want to join this club, cause I am 52, and I don't want to be that old. I like playing with the teenagers here.
As for the parent thing, I just gave up. I finally figured out that I couldn't fix things. Almost 30 years ago, my mother told me how much it hurt her that the family wasn't very close, so I tried then for the next nearly 30 years to try to keep everyone close. I can say that I wasn't very successful in doing so. But I had been trying my darnedest to do it. When she told me about how disappointed she was that family wasn't close as she wanted it to be, I had enough. It's not my job to keep her family close. My family is close, so I did my job. My family are the family that stood by me, and loved me warts and all. DH's family and the family that we created are enough. I still adore my in laws even after 30 years.
I realized that I had been loading the gun over and over for a lifetime. Can I really blame them if they pull the trigger? So now I just don't bother to respond. There was a lot more stuff that happened over the years, but I am done playing with the poop. Also now I ask myself "What am I contributing to this situation?" I know now that I am not contributing anything.
I have spent the last year wondering how I am going to feel as they pass away. I just find that somehow I know that it is going to be okay. They have my sisters to make their final years comfortable, and I don't have to pretend I believe in their religion anymore. I have found that in the past year, I have become happier, and I am at peace with how things are. This is a nice way to live.
Very much so
Ok that is funny!!!!! You can go on thinking that if you like, but I do have a pic posted on page 30 something in the show your mug thread in this forum.
Well I want to join this club, cause I am 52, and I don't want to be that old. I like playing with the teenagers here.
As for the parent thing, I just gave up. I finally figured out that I couldn't fix things. Almost 30 years ago, my mother told me how much it hurt her that the family wasn't very close, so I tried then for the next nearly 30 years to try to keep everyone close. I can say that I wasn't very successful in doing so. But I had been trying my darnedest to do it. When she told me about how disappointed she was that family wasn't close as she wanted it to be, I had enough. It's not my job to keep her family close. My family is close, so I did my job. My family are the family that stood by me, and loved me warts and all. DH's family and the family that we created are enough. I still adore my in laws even after 30 years.
I realized that I had been loading the gun over and over for a lifetime. Can I really blame them if they pull the trigger? So now I just don't bother to respond. There was a lot more stuff that happened over the years, but I am done playing with the poop. Also now I ask myself "What am I contributing to this situation?" I know now that I am not contributing anything.
I have spent the last year wondering how I am going to feel as they pass away. I just find that somehow I know that it is going to be okay. They have my sisters to make their final years comfortable, and I don't have to pretend I believe in their religion anymore. I have found that in the past year, I have become happier, and I am at peace with how things are. This is a nice way to live.
