Shocked, sad, angry, helpless, disbelief, sick to my stomach, felt it over and over again until we put together a game plan to rebuild our house and our lives in 2005. It will be very hard, but you can get through it. Just focus on staying safe right now. In time you can make the decisions that are best for you and your family. In the mean time you will have lots of offers of help and support from all sorts of people you don't even know yet. Take the help they offer, knowing you would or already have at some point in your life, offered and/or given the same help to others. You may not have realized how much you have helped someone with some little thing you did that ment a whole lot to them.