I am so completely disgusted - Updated

[quintinp]

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It sucks he did that to you guys, (Remuda1) but Duker17, everyone is still paying for him in some jail. No good. He'll get out and probably try to do it to someone else. Being in jail, is like being a grounded kid, the parents still have to pay for him, but they don't see him/her, so he/she can't bother the parents. I'm all for public embarrassment though. LOL He he he Embarrassment for a man is the worst punishment Lol.

 

[Ema]

Wow. seems like its always the ones we do so much for. I am sorry you and your family are going through this and I hope he gets what he deserves. I don't understand how people can be so rotten these days and have the ability to overlook the kindness that others have extended them. Shame on him.

Ema

 

[redhen]

I hope he gets convicted and has Bubba for a cell mate.

 

[remuda1]

Thanks for all of the support folks. I just get so tired of seeing my husband's disappointment. But he thinks I'm just over reacting when I try to tell him that he shouldn't be so trusting and that it's best if his employees don't consider him their friend over and above considering him their boss. Until something like this rears up and smacks him in the face, he just has a hard time believing that these people will stoop so low.

I just think it's safer to not provide any opportunity or at least minimize the opportunities as much as possible. Makes me sick to think of how hard he always works while this piece of garbage had every weekend off to go to his hunting lease. My husband is 67 and usually ends up working to some extent every Saturday and most Sundays. If a customer calls, he will go. Now that the parasite is fired.... I guess he'll just have to do his job too at least until we find someone, get them trained, etc. I'm really hoping that I can use this time to convince him to start considering at least a semi-retirement.

The parasite may indeed do this to someone else when he gets out of jail, but I hope he has a really, really long time to think about it. We are just skimming the surface and won't have access to ALL of the evidence because I'm sure he will destroy what he can but at this time it looks like it will end up being tens of thousands of dollars. It's really mind blowing right now. I know that there are good people out there, but I just have to say that given the opportunity, I think most people will take advantage of someone else if it's possible that they will get away with it.

If it were only me affected, I wouldn't care so much. But although hubby is keeping up a good front, I know this one hit him like a Mack truck

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[redhen]

Its so hard to see your loved ones hurt and betrayed...

 

[Fierlin1182]

It seems some people just can't see kindness when it's looking them in the face. I'm sorry

Good luck with the case, and I hope your hubby gets some respite soon! I'm sure there are plenty of good people out there who could really do good with this opportunity

 

[Mattemma]

So sorry this has happened to you over and over. We go through the same with our brother.My mom says I will understand as my kids get older,but I don't ever want to *understand*.

Did you ever read the book *The Sociopath Next Door*? 1 in 25 people are sociopaths.My friend says that has been updated to 1 in 10. I read the book years ago,and recently came across it mentioned on this blog below. The descrption this woman posted(from the book) of a sociopath fit some I knew including my own brother.

I hope your current embezzler gets a harsh sentence.Sadly,there WILL be many who will sweet talk themselves into his former postion.Hope your dh will find a better way to help others like a women/children shelter,and leave the workplace as a no helping hand strictly business place.Sorry for your financial losses and emotional distress.

http://www.travelswithlulu.com/2010/10/the-sociopath-next-door/

 

[PaulaSB12]

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A woman in the UK has been found guilty of stealing £170,000 from her employers. Because of her theft the firm nearly went bust and two people lost their jobs just so a selfish moo could have that "perfect" wedding

A BRIDE-TO-BE who stole nearly £170,000 from her employer was caught out because of her no-expense-spared wedding.

Kirsty Lane, 29, was always pleading poverty – yet her reception was a lavish affair at a historic countryside hall.

It included a firework display, a harpist, saxophone player, magician, DJ and two bands. There was also a free bar, face painting and feathered masks for her guests.

She even invited Peter Sutton, the company boss she had stolen from, to the wedding. But it was the extravagance of the ceremony that first aroused his suspicions.

Mr Sutton had given Lane, his part-time accounts clerk, a loan and a pay rise to help ends meet.

But her wedding to Graham Lane last January was all paid for, a stunned Mr Sutton discovered soon afterwards, out of the £168,000 the bride had fiddled from his business.

Yesterday, after Lane admitted 122 counts of fraud, Mr Sutton, 44, said she had almost ruined his audio visual company in Leyland, Lancashire, where she had worked for four years.

Her “unbridled greed” had cost two people their jobs, he added.

Lane, who arrived at the wedding ceremony in a white stretch limousine, had bought dresses for her five bridesmaids – who wore black Ugg boots for the wedding – and treated herself to a £1,500 jewel-encrusted case for her iPad out of his business accounts.

“It was like she was rubbing our faces in it,” Mr Sutton said. “It was the wedding that first started to raise alarm bells. Up to that point we had no idea, because she was always claiming she was hard-up, and didn’t do anything that would tip us off.

“Then I turned up at the wedding and it was the most lavish thing I’ve ever seen. I trusted her implicitly and this was how she repaid us.”

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The mother-of-one was married at the Tudor-built Great Hall At Mains, a wedding venue in Little Singleton, near Blackpool. When they arrived, Mr Sutton and suspicious colleagues were “shocked” by the elaborate celebrations.

Days later, while the newlyweds were on a mini-honeymoon in the Lake District, a routine problem with an account revealed financial discrepancies.

On closer examination it emerged that Lane had been using real invoices to existing suppliers to create extra payments into her own bank account for more than two years.

It took two months to uncover the full extent of the deception, after which Lane was arrested and prevented from going on a two-month honeymoon to Mexico.

Mr Sutton said: “If she had been in work when the problem surfaced she would have been able to hide it, like she had for so long.

“But because I was already getting suspicious, it all started to come out. It was a very clever, incredibly devious operation that was calculated to the ‘nth’ degree.

“You read about these things but you never think it will happen to you, and it has caused a lot of sleepless nights. We are not a large company and a lot of livelihoods depend on us. How it didn’t sink us I don’t know. It is only through the sheer determination of the rest of the team that we are still here.”

Mr Sutton, from Preston, said the company, Pure AV, had loaned Lane £7,000 and increased her wages after she complained she was struggling financially. Yet throughout this time she was milking the accounts.

Appearing at Leyland magistrates’ court, Lane pleaded guilty to 10 counts of fraud involving £38,000 and asked for the further 112 counts to be taken into consideration.

She was bailed to reappear on October 13 when it is expected she will be sent to Preston Crown Court for sentence. Approached at her home in Adlington, near Chorley, she refused to comment. Lane’s husband Graham has been charged with possession of criminal property, to the value of £71,717. He has yet to appear in court.

 

[KDailey]

Wow. Some people are just incredible.... I'm sorry this happened to you.

 

[eggbuster]

My Hubby is the same. He will never change because he could never live with the guilt if he didn't help someone who really needed it. The jerks of the world know this. My BIL was just scammed by his best friend and business partner because he too couldn't beleive that people could play so dirty. He had to mortgage his house to buy out the slime ball because he couldn't bring himself to declare the company bankrupt and hang people out to dry. He is still trying to make it right. His former partner is in Mexico living it up. I just wish these nice guys were the majority. The world would be much better for it.