I am so completely disgusted - Updated

[spacecowgirl]

Quote:
This is exactly what I was going to say!! I've finally learned my lesson about trusting people, after having been burned time and time again...my husband, not so much. He still believes in people until they give him reason not to, sometimes to the detriment of our personal finances.

 

[remuda1]

A small update.... We are friends with the former sheriff of our county. He's a locksmith and came over today to change some locks for us. Although it's been awhile since he's been in office, he still has a friend or two. He contacted one of the assistant DAs for us and we will see him Tuesday morning.

My husband spoke with several customers this morning and they told him that the parasite had either told them to make checks payable to him or he told them that they could leave it blank. We have found one check that was made payable to our company but he endorsed it with the company name, then he endorsed it with his name and the clients bank cashed it. We'll have to seek payment from the banks in those instances.

The DA said for us not to do anymore legwork, just gather the paperwork and let them handle it from there.

Our customers have been great. We will have to contact each and every one of them to let them know that he is no longer affiliated with us. I think we will probably also run a public notice in the paper to that effect as well. In just the last week, he's gotten over $2,000.00. We're not a large company and there have been times when we've taken money out of savings for operating capital so that we could make payroll.

The one positive that may come of this is that the magnitude of the deception and the large amount of money involved may actually make my husband more agreeable to keeping tighter control. I don't think you have to stop trying to help people, I just think you really, really need to ALWAYS protect yourself first.

 

[NewHopePoultry]

Quote:
X2

Im so sorry

 

[caspernc]

We had some unknown people get our business account #'s and create them selves some paychecks! Well the bank had to reimburse the $1000.00 + dollars for the forged checks and to show good faith they gave us all new checks because we had to close the account then reopen with a new acount #. Didn't cost us a dime but it was a pain. Have you contacted the bank in question?

 

[fuzziebutt]

Hubbo had a heart attack while taking Vioxx, and he got a modest settlement from Merck. We had all kinds of friends, family, and other needies at the door every day. We probably lost close to $4000. Now we don't loan money, don't care if you're starving to death. Our families are grown and living on their own, so they should be able to help themselves. And once the money was cut off, they became self sufficient. If you ever get a settlement, or backpay from Social Security, don't tell a soul. Believe me, don't tell a soul.

 

[RHRanch]

I just want to say that when considering helping people wo are "down on thier luck" it is important to ask yourself some questions, such as: "Why has this person run out of help from friends and family?" If a person's own mother won't shelter them, there may be a reason. I have found it best to contribute to structured organizations that help get people back on thier feet with food, shelter and job training and drug counciling. You can still help people by doing so, and keep your property and business safe in the process. You have spent a lot of time building a nice home and a sucessfull business, and its not wrong to look for job candidates that display high callibur traits such as stability, a steady track record and the ability to suceed.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Quote:
x2

 

[ebwy2]

Quote:
well in my case my mother wouldn't help us because her husband has said that he hates children (I had just had my son) and she won't go against his wishes, I'm not even able to visit there; and my father's dead so can't help. Would you say that's a good reason my family aren't helping me? I didn't so much "run out of help" as never got any.

it's not always a person's own fault that their family can't or won't help them. Not everyone has a decent family to start with.

As for friends, they made excuses or lied or just avoided any contact with me until my crisis was over... something I noted, and will not be forgetting when they need my help, because I always helped them in the past.

I'm forever grateful to my one friend who took us in rather than let my (at the time) newborn baby be taken into foster care due to us being made homeless. We're now staying because he can't afford to keep the house without our rent. What goes around comes around.

 

[cassie]

Quote:
A good companion book to "The Sociopath Next Door" is "Without Conscience" by Hale.

 

[Q9]

And people wonder why I'm so cynical.

That really stinks, but people just don't care anymore. I suspect a part of it has to do with the entitlement mentality - they convince themselves that they're owed something, and so feel completely justified in taking it. Humans are corrupt, and I'd bet money that the majority of the populations of "developed" nations are more than willing to screw you over if they feel they're entitled to something.