I am so mad I could spit nails!

[Katy]

It's high time they both had jobs. I'd certainly go on strike too. Do nothing for them...no cooking, laundry, whatever and certainly no spending money!! I don't know what your response was when he cussed you out, but that would only happen once at my house. If that's how he wants to be he needs to do it out on his own.

 

[morelcabin]

What I do with mine when they become disrespectful and lazy is make it not so comfortable at home for them anymore, don't drive them anywhere...and when they ask for a ride say "and what have you done for me today?"
They either 'get it' and start pitching in, or they get more and more nasty about it because they want to be spoiled as usual...until something gives and they gotta leave home....

 

[conny63malies]

Dont forget to stop washing their clothes, if the room is a mess hide the playstation or whatever they have somewhere in their dump some they have to clean up, cut the cellphone off... i have a whole list of good ideas.

 

[Poison Ivy]

If mine said that to me there would be no cable, no phone and no video games period! Mine would be grounded for whole summer. The 18 year needs to start earning his keep. I started working at 16 and gave my parents $25 a week toward groceries or what ever was needed. I think these two boys need a reality check and soon. My son got in trouble a while back for not doing some homework at school. I grounded him from the computer for 2 weeks. Well sneaky butt thought he would sneak on computer and I wouldn't know it. Well I did and I grounded him for another 2 weeks and took all the power cords to work with me so he couldn't find them! He knows I mean business now.

I do think you should set limits on their free time and if they don't like it well to bad. The 16 year old is old enough to get a part time job too. If they want money they need to work for it Plus if they want anything they should have to pay for it like going to the Movies etc... My son feeds the horses every day and he gets $40 a month. He saves it up to buy what he wants. I hope you get it straighten out real quick and they learn a lesson from this.

 

[Marlinchaser]

Make up a list of things that must be done, or an amount that must be paid for room and board, offer to take him to the Recruiter....its not just a job its an adventure...looking for a few good men....cant remember the rest.

Then you have to stick to it either he pays with labor or cash or he is out the door. If he threatens again give the local law a call, maybe a weekend in a orange jumpsuit would do him good.

 

[piecemaker]

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I agree with king dean. When my son was 12 or it was his job to feed the dog before he went to school. Ok you know how that went so I told him the dog came first she don't eat you don't eat. So he went to school one morning hungry and told them I wouldn't let him have breakfast they fed him and called me. I told them why he did not eat and they said ok. He tried the same thing the next day. The lady ask did you feed the dog and he said no and she just looked at him and said I guess you don't eat til lunch. Of coarse this was done with my ok and in front of his friends. He said it was so embarrassing the next day when the bus driver ask did he feed the dog or did they need to pick him up on the way back by!!!!!!!!!!!

Wish you luck with your 2 boys Kids now think we owe them. Mine learned that this is not true. He is now in his second year of college and told me thank you for making me grow up to take care of myself

 

[CathyB]

I say strike!! My DH is in his union, ya want me to send him to you to mobilize!

I know how you feel about no one being grateful and respectful. We just told our 14 year old daughter to enjoy this summer because next summer she's getting working papers!

I do think your 18 year old does need to get a job and contribute to the household. I would not do his laundry, cook his dinner, give him a ride, nothing! I think they will get the picture of how much you do real soon. I am sure the strike will not have to last long. Your hungry, stinky, loney boys will be begging on their knees!

 

[EweSheep]

I agree with the issues, they ought to be responsible members of the family by helping out. If not, out the door to get a job or dont do anything for them, no TV either!

Sooner or later, they will give in either way! Kids got it better than I did!

 

[Barnyard]

My first thought when reading this was, my son would be picking his teeth up off the floor for talking to me that way. That is one thing I will not stand for. My kids are very spoiled and very lazy, but they do not disrespect me like that. I agree with everyone on here the 18 year old can either get a job and pay up or ship out! No since in him sitting up in your house eating your food, running up you electricity and then being a total ass when you get home!! As for the 16 year old. I am sure there are plenty of way's to get his attention..... take his phone, tv, friends, free tiime, ect. I would go on strike for sure. I would take care of me and dh and they could fin for them self's for a while.....

Goodluck!!

 

[gamebirdsonly]

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My thoughts exactly.