does your husband loose his cool like that a lot?
I come to random ramblings sad tonight
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And if he does, hopefully you have an escape plan/place to go. Verbal abuse is still abuse. You're an abused wife, my dear. Please, please, talk to someone.
And if he does, hopefully you have an escape plan/place to go. Verbal abuse is still abuse. You're an abused wife, my dear. Please, please, talk to someone.
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And if he does, hopefully you have an escape plan/place to go. Verbal abuse is still abuse. You're an abused wife, my dear. Please, please, talk to someone.
Did you read Annie's post ~
And if he does, hopefully you have an escape plan/place to go. Verbal abuse is still abuse. You're an abused wife, my dear. Please, please, talk to someone.
Did you read Annie's post ~
Thank you for all your kind words. I do love my husband, and after last night, as I mentioned he came in the house and said he was sorry. My husband is a really nice guy, i am not covering what happend. But he was upset there was a slight cut over near my son's ear. more than anything.
We have been together for 17 years and I know what kind of person he is. thanks again for the virtual hugs.
I love all of you and dont even know you,,,, just the fact i can come in here in vent is so much easier than venting on facebook.
Andrea-
Really? IMO she's not abused to the point where she needs to talk to someone, nor have an escape plan. In fact, I wouldn't even agree that she is an abused wife.
We have been together for 17 years and I know what kind of person he is. thanks again for the virtual hugs.
I love all of you and dont even know you,,,, just the fact i can come in here in vent is so much easier than venting on facebook.
Andrea-
Really? IMO she's not abused to the point where she needs to talk to someone, nor have an escape plan. In fact, I wouldn't even agree that she is an abused wife.
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There are lots of women who live very happily with highly strung men. What we lable as abusive today was the norm and acceptable years ago.
It is easy to point the finger and lable someone as abusive. This man doubtless needs a lot of help and support but labling him and going down the road of telling a wife she is in an abusive relationship probably isn;t that helpful. There does however need to be a support network and a damage limitation excersize in place.
The person who needs the most support and help right now is the one who is unable to deal with his emotions. He has a wonderful loving supportive wife and a beautiful lad who obviously loves him. Lets not jump all over this fellow. We do not know why he is this way or what provokes his outbursts of uncontroled anger. The good news is that dealt with properly with love and care HE can get better and this marriage and this family, and the relationships within it can be saved and strengthened. There is no reason to believe this lady needs to "escape" from this man. Though I do think he needs to sit down with his lad and tell him he loves him no matter what his hair is like, and that he will try not to shout in future! Or say nasty frightening things to mummy in his hearing or out of it for that matter!!!!!
Let us support this family and give them positive ways to keep together and to gain the best they can from their relationships.
We can all throw stones but even the best of us has a push point don;t we !!!!
Oesdog
It is easy to point the finger and lable someone as abusive. This man doubtless needs a lot of help and support but labling him and going down the road of telling a wife she is in an abusive relationship probably isn;t that helpful. There does however need to be a support network and a damage limitation excersize in place.
The person who needs the most support and help right now is the one who is unable to deal with his emotions. He has a wonderful loving supportive wife and a beautiful lad who obviously loves him. Lets not jump all over this fellow. We do not know why he is this way or what provokes his outbursts of uncontroled anger. The good news is that dealt with properly with love and care HE can get better and this marriage and this family, and the relationships within it can be saved and strengthened. There is no reason to believe this lady needs to "escape" from this man. Though I do think he needs to sit down with his lad and tell him he loves him no matter what his hair is like, and that he will try not to shout in future! Or say nasty frightening things to mummy in his hearing or out of it for that matter!!!!!
Let us support this family and give them positive ways to keep together and to gain the best they can from their relationships.
We can all throw stones but even the best of us has a push point don;t we !!!!
Oesdog
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What really makes me sad about this post is that the little boy was so excited to show his dad. Poor little guy. I know too well how that feels. Husbands can be butt faces sometimes.
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This is true. BUT THAT PERSON AIN'T THE HUSBAND! The person who needs the most support and help right now is the one who is unable to deal with his emotions BECAUSE HE IS A CHILD. He is a child who is ridiculed and screamed at by AN ADULT HE WORSHIPS. An adult who then tells him "Oh, I was just mad at mommy.", as if that makes it all okay? No. Just because it was the norm and acceptable years ago doesn't mean it wasn't abusive and doesn't mean it's not now. The husband needs to start ACTING LIKE AN ADULT and taking responsibility for his actions. Yeah, he may need some support and help to do that, but he doesn't need it solely from the people he is hurting. He needs to do whatever he has to to ensure that he doesn't hurt his family.
Annie, I hope that you're right and that your husband is a good man. Even if he is a good man though, it's very damaging to you and your child to be talked to that way. And verbal abuse is still abuse. If this is a pattern, he loses his temper, he blames external things, he apologizes, and then he does it again? Over and over? That is abuse. As the previous poster pointed out, we all do have our breaking points, but once we reach them, and we do something that hurts those we love, THEN WE DO SOMETHING TO FIX THE PROBLEM. If that part isn't happening, then you have some big issues to deal with.
I hope and pray that things are well with you and your whole family.
Traci
This is true. BUT THAT PERSON AIN'T THE HUSBAND! The person who needs the most support and help right now is the one who is unable to deal with his emotions BECAUSE HE IS A CHILD. He is a child who is ridiculed and screamed at by AN ADULT HE WORSHIPS. An adult who then tells him "Oh, I was just mad at mommy.", as if that makes it all okay? No. Just because it was the norm and acceptable years ago doesn't mean it wasn't abusive and doesn't mean it's not now. The husband needs to start ACTING LIKE AN ADULT and taking responsibility for his actions. Yeah, he may need some support and help to do that, but he doesn't need it solely from the people he is hurting. He needs to do whatever he has to to ensure that he doesn't hurt his family.
Annie, I hope that you're right and that your husband is a good man. Even if he is a good man though, it's very damaging to you and your child to be talked to that way. And verbal abuse is still abuse. If this is a pattern, he loses his temper, he blames external things, he apologizes, and then he does it again? Over and over? That is abuse. As the previous poster pointed out, we all do have our breaking points, but once we reach them, and we do something that hurts those we love, THEN WE DO SOMETHING TO FIX THE PROBLEM. If that part isn't happening, then you have some big issues to deal with.
I hope and pray that things are well with you and your whole family.
Traci
I think your baby boy is very handsome in his new hair cut, and you can tell that he thinks he looks pretty cool too. I feel sorry for the baby in this matter, because he loves his daddy and was excited to show him his new hair cut, and he got his feelings crushed.
My husband knows what I would do, so he just sets back and keeps quiet because he wants to be able to go to bed and sleep in peace.
My husband knows what I would do, so he just sets back and keeps quiet because he wants to be able to go to bed and sleep in peace.
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And if he does, hopefully you have an escape plan/place to go. Verbal abuse is still abuse. You're an abused wife, my dear. Please, please, talk to someone.
Did you read Annie's post ~
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Correct I am not an abused wife. thank you for your concern
Andrea-
And if he does, hopefully you have an escape plan/place to go. Verbal abuse is still abuse. You're an abused wife, my dear. Please, please, talk to someone.
Did you read Annie's post ~
Thank you for all your kind words. I do love my husband, and after last night, as I mentioned he came in the house and said he was sorry. My husband is a really nice guy, i am not covering what happend. But he was upset there was a slight cut over near my son's ear. more than anything.
We have been together for 17 years and I know what kind of person he is. thanks again for the virtual hugs.
I love all of you and dont even know you,,,, just the fact i can come in here in vent is so much easier than venting on facebook.
Andrea-
Really? IMO she's not abused to the point where she needs to talk to someone, nor have an escape plan. In fact, I wouldn't even agree that she is an abused wife.
We have been together for 17 years and I know what kind of person he is. thanks again for the virtual hugs.
I love all of you and dont even know you,,,, just the fact i can come in here in vent is so much easier than venting on facebook.
Andrea-
Really? IMO she's not abused to the point where she needs to talk to someone, nor have an escape plan. In fact, I wouldn't even agree that she is an abused wife.
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Correct I am not an abused wife. thank you for your concern
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