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[EmtheFishLady]

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I hope you stick to your guns. I know I ignored the signs for much longer than I should have, and regretted it later.

 

[BooBear]

RE-read your posts. Whether you realize it or not, you are dropping hints of an unhealthy relationship. Only you can really decide to get out or stay. Sounds like you replaced an unhappy relationship with your mom with this guy.

I could go on, but I won't as I do not want to upset you.
Please take some time to really think about your situation. Ask your self the tough questions.

No one wants to see another suffering in a bad way, however, you can only help someone as much as they allow you to help them.

If there is a bad vibe going on in regards to the ducks, please do what is best for the ducks and find them a caring nee home.

 

[cackydoodledoo]

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I hope you stick to your guns. I know I ignored the signs for much longer than I should have, and regretted it later.

Same here! I think we all stick around for too long just hanging on to the hope that it will get better. I wish I had gotten out earlier and not wasted four years of my life with horrible ex but I learned some valuable lessons. featherfinder I hope you learn something from this and I hope you stick to your guns! It will be tough but stay strong!

 

[DanceswLabs]

The boyfriend needs to go. Don't let anyone push you around like that. You (and your ducks) deserve better.

 

[stormylady]

stormylady wrote:

I had a long speach typed on here for ya, but took it off because I didn't feel right saying nothing positive about your boyfriend. You sound like a really nice girl and he sounds like a jerk to put it mildly. But those are the classic signs of a Control freak and abuser. Sorry But I would take my ducks and leave. Hope everything works out for ya. Good luck.

Thanks. Everyone seems to be saying the samething about him so im guessing everyone might have had to deal with something like this before. I just dont understand in the 5 years we have known each other this is the first time. there should have been other signs before now dont you think?

Not nessarily sweetie, I was with my husband for 11 years and everyone could see him for what he was, but me, and that is usually the case.
He was a Control Freak and didn't want me to have anything that made me happy, and yes it started with my pets and went on to pushing my family out of my life then things got bad and I saw the light and what everyone had tried to tell me all those years. I don't know your situation, and I would never try and say that I did, but I would hate to see you get hurt, All I can say is do what you feel is right for you and I wish you the best with my whole heart. Sandy

 

[nettie]

YOU CAN KEEP THEM INSIDE!!!! I just wanted to get that out there.... I live with six indian runners in my townhouse in downtown Chicago. Two at a time often come for visits at my condo, which is a STUDIO, and they stay for a few nights, they different ducks will stay for a few nights... If I can live with two in an 8th floor studio condo, anyone can live with them in an apartment. lol. You just gotta know the basics of cleaning, which are way different for ducks who live inside. That and you gotta take them out for at least walks to they get fresh air and sunlight. I guess you can say I am the perosn to talk to about keeping them indoors, so you feel free to PM or email me (you can find my email via my weblink in my siggy) any questions you have about the process and I'd be more than happy to answer. You can call our business phone to and we can talk about the best ways to keep ducks inside.... Anything to help!

Nettie

I also have experience with controlling boyfriends, so I have an ear for you on that as well

 

[Sore Thumb Suburbanite]

One thing I am definately taking away from this posting; BYC people are awesome... just look at how many of us are concerned and care about the lives of complete strangers... it also helps that a ton of us are moms, wives, grandmas, sisters etc... I think this is a great community....

featherfinder: BYC is not only a duck support group... you have a ton of people who care about your relationships with your pets and people right here when you need us... which may be more now that BF is history. Just a prediction... he'll come crawling back with apologies and promises of change....it doesn't happen, don't fall for it and waste more time. Take a relationship break and focus on what you want to do with your life & goals...and cheer up because you have wonderful baby ducks who love you!

 

[featherfinder]

Thanks for all the support from everyone. I already feel better knowing that I will get to keep them without worry now.

 

[70%cocoa]

I'm glad you feel better, and that you and your ducks are emotionally and physically safer now. I'm sure it's been very difficult so good for you for taking charge of your situation. I know from my own experience how hard that is in a relationship situation.

I'm sure your ducks will be thrilled that they get to stay

 

[BorderKelpie]

I am proud of you featherfinder. Stay strong, you so don't need a man to make you a whole person - you are a whole person all on your own. A good man will come along someday, but until then, love yourself, enjoy your ducks and make the life you deserve. That's what I am doing and I love it!!
Someday, my special someone may come along, but, even if he doesn't, I am now comfortable with who I am and who I'm becoming. I want that for you as well.