I have a huge conflict

[Solace]

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BINGO!

You'll be the bad guy in both his and her eyes.


Personally I'd talk to MY wife about it and let her know I was uncomfortable with the whole situation. I really wouldn't want my wife hanging around with a 'best friend' that's cheating on her husband.

 

[vicki2x2]

Maybe you could let it be known to your wife, and your friend that you learned something about this person but because of your job you can't disclose it. However, you no longer wish to socialize with her because of it and if they want to know what is going on, they need to ask her about it, because you can't talk about it or you would lose your job. That would put the burden on her and if she lies, you can say so. I would think you would not get in trouble for confirming or denying if she is telling the truth, as long as you don't tell what she did.

 

[Wildsky]

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[ridgefire]

The good news is I wont have to deal with this till at least Tuesday. I just picked up a 24 hour shift on the ambulance tomorrow. So I get to go home and go right to bed, before the wife gets home. I have to leave the house by 6 am and she wont be up.

 

[sunnychooks]

What a mess. I don't know how I'd handle it, but here's another thought. The husband may be vulnerable to catching a STD. I think the friendship with this couple may be over anyway, so for his own safety he should be informed - preferably by his wife.

 

[jvls1942]

It is not your place to tell.. what goes on between a man and wife is strickly their affair. If she keeps this fro him and her little fling goes away they could get along for the rest of their lives together..

tell no one but your own spouse..
and swear her to secrecy also..(before you tell her)

do not confront the woman either..

as it stands, she does not know that you know..

you must have other things to worry about and things to do..

 

[Darin115]

If your spouse was cheating on you wouldn't you want to know??
And if you do keep your mouth shut and your friend ever finds out you knew this information and did not tell, you will not be friends much longer.

You are going to be on the crap list either way. Do the right thing and at least you will sleep better tonight.

Darin

 

[jvls1942]

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The only way his friend would find out anything is if he or his wife tells someone ..which they will not, right??

I will bet that other people know already.. and the only reason that you do not know is because everybody is keeping their mouths shut also..

If she keeps it up, the guy will find out and you will be off the hook..

 

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

Chances are that the husband already suspects something is going on anyway. Might not want to "see" it. But he probably knows it deep down.

Goodness knows I "knew" but I was young and "blinded by love"
Grew up and out of that madness.
My current dh knows better. I will take everything and nail hm to the wall while doing it. Live and learn.


I would definitely avoid having any contact with them though. No need to be involved with that type of person.

 

[Buster]

My mom's best friend's husband worked with my mom. The best friend's husband was cheating. My mom told him to tell or she would. The friend ended up angry with my mom and never speaking to her again because apparently she didn't want to know the truth.