I have a huge conflict

[Wildsky]

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Yep the anger gets turned around really fast. The friend I had to tell did forgive me after a couple of months or so, and then I was there to support her and well......... PARTY!

It worked out in the end for my friend, she married the cheating guy - and he hates my guts, but she knows I'm there for her ALWAYS.

 

[DuckLady]

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You are in a hard spot. However, in your position in the community, you are in a position of trust. If it gets out that you used info gained while in a position of privileged information, your credibility will go in the toilet.

I would not say anything unless SHE approaches you. Then you can let her have it with both barrels. If she is dumb enough to drop your name in that "delicate" situation, she will be found out soon enough.

 

[Buster]

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Yep the anger gets turned around really fast. The friend I had to tell did forgive me after a couple of months or so, and then I was there to support her and well......... PARTY!

It worked out in the end for my friend, she married the cheating guy - and he hates my guts, but she knows I'm there for her ALWAYS.

This incident with my mom was 5 years ago and to my knowledge her friend has never spoken to her again.

 

[Toast n Jelly]

Keep silent for all the reasons stated by yourself and a few others.
Avoid the dinner with them in whatever way that you can.
Most important keep your eyes open now that you're aware of what's going on.

Your wife just may surprise you by telling you herself about her friend especially if her friend confides in her that she was approached by your fellow worker she may want to know if you know about it. In any case I think that it will blow wide open now with you not having to get involved at all.

Stay cool this is not about your family but about strangers and it's not worth getting emotionaly involved with their problem and maybe causing a rift in your own life.

 

[redhen]

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Yep the anger gets turned around really fast. The friend I had to tell did forgive me after a couple of months or so, and then I was there to support her and well......... PARTY!

It worked out in the end for my friend, she married the cheating guy - and he hates my guts, but she knows I'm there for her ALWAYS.

This incident with my mom was 5 years ago and to my knowledge her friend has never spoken to her again.

then she was not a real friend...a real friend does not knowinly let another friend get screwed (pardon the pun)....

....i would not be able to look my friend in the eye if i did that to them....AND if they do turn it around and blame you...ooh well...thats their problem...

...really...its called "denial"...and they have other issues then..

 

[Buster]

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This incident with my mom was 5 years ago and to my knowledge her friend has never spoken to her again.

then she was not a real friend...a real friend does not knowinly let another friend get screwed (pardon the pun)....

....i would not be able to look my friend in the eye if i did that to them....AND if they do turn it around and blame you...ooh well...thats their problem...

...really...its called "denial"...and they have other issues then..

I agree with you 100%

 

[buckeye lady]

Just a thought.....

If the officer called in names to dispatch could they have been heard by someone with a scanner? If so the matter is already out of your hands.

 

[redhen]

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..i was thinking this also!..usually you can pick it up at home with a scanner...so..really....anyone could have heard the dispatch...maybe?

 

[Wifezilla]

This person is a scum bag. You really want your wife to be pals with a scum bag?

Is there an incident report? If so, I would mail it to the cheater's spouse.

 

[Solace]

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Come on guys.... he wants to keep his job. He can't do anything like that. I know I'd want to, but his hands are tied in all of this really.

Wouldn't take much for some vindictive person to up and have his job over something like that.