If we ever needed prayers now...

[kees]

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Well, the DA and the law guardian and judge don't always think the same way. Heavy sigh

 

[kees]

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This is his third attempt to get complete custody in two years. The previous one went to trial. Anyone can file lawsuit after lawsuit if they have enough money.

I've researched getting recording devices and hidden surveillance and it's pretty darned expensive! A lot of what he does now is nonverbal. Or he'll have his girlfriend or kids do his dirty work. I can't get an order against them bec. there's no proof that my life is endangered from him.

Ex is pretty smart and doesn't do or say anything that will make him look bad. He ends up looking like the poor father who's just concerned about his little kid.

Suzy

 

[kees]

Taking them up on the panic button. Thanks for reminding me. Someone's coming today to install one!

I love big dogs and trained to to follow hand commands. It was really awesome! However, with the injury to my back and now the stupid car accident, I can barely take care of the two of us, nevermind, a large dog. We have our cats and the chickens and they help to bring joy into our lives.

What would I do without you guys? Thanks for all of your support!

 

[agnes_day]

if the district attorneys office said that they feel he is enough of a threat that they will pay for the above, then the court would definitely take that under advisement, you would think.

 

[Chicken Lil]

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You have my deepest sympathy.

My ex was always a bit off, but during our marriage he became bipolar and violent to me and our girls. During one of his more complacent moods I got him to sign a legal agreement giving me full custody. Than before he changed his mind I packed up the girls and moved a thousand miles away. When he finally realised we were gone, he tried to change things, but since we were already residing in Illinois they would not force me to go back.

It was a long and expensive legal battle, and when the kids were little they did not understand why daddy wasn't around, but it was the best thing I ever did. Now that they are young adults and have come to know thier dad. They think he is insane, and are glad he was not around!

You have my prayers, and my wishes that somehow you can start over far away from this creep.

 

[kees]

The DA's office has been very supportive, but unfortunately, our court system is wanting. My lawyer has helped me a lot. Yes, there are fees that must be paid, but that is in my defense. I can't believe after an accusation is unfounded, that I have to prove my fitness as a mother. Nowhere does he have to prove his fitness as a father. His lawyer, of course, gets paid a lot to keep this thing going, and so does the law guardian. The other day, the LG stated that she had earned $20,400 in legal fees since Nov! And this is only the beg. of everything. So continues the nightmare.

I never picked up and moved bec. I always hoped that ex's anger would subside. My parents are getting old and I can't, and won't abandon them now.

Ex was always nice when he wanted something. I thought that was a sign that he was becoming nicer. Aargh. I accepted less than 1/2 of what the state would have mandated for child support. This was bec. I was hoping that he'd be a good father to her. How naieve that was.

I think that his GF is paying the legal stuff for him. She had a kid just the same age as mine. Hers died and she's made mine call her mommy. I want to throttle her.

I still try to do the right thing. I seriously always included him in my prayers bec. I know that he's sick and think it'd be better for everyone if he got better.

Suzy

 

[maplesky7]

Yep,
My Pastor said the same thing...no matter how hard it is right now...continue to pray for him.

Love in Christ,
Gretchen

 

[Chicken Lil]

Suzy,

I can understand not wanting to leave your parents. Thankfully mine had already moved away (they are now on opposite coasts).

This really is rough for you and I will prey for you to get through this tough time. Be strong, and remember that this to shall pass.

You are a good person from preying for your ex. I try to prey for mine, but mostly I just prey to never see him again!

Take care.

 

[kees]

Yesterday the LG complained to my lawyer that the ex was upset that I didn't want to drop off my daughter 1/2 hr early today. The LG said that it showed that I was vindictive in wanting to keep to the visitation agreement! Bec. of that, I gave in and will drop my kid off 1/2 hr early this morn. That phone call complaint cost me another $300 and my daughter blamed me for missing an ice skating lesson bec. I was on the phone. It's so frustrating bec. it seems that no matter what I do, the EX complains to the LG and she always sides w/him.

Suzy

 

[mullers3acers]