If you had the opportunity.....would you? UPDATED!!!

[TheBrumstead]

Absolutely not. I'd even block him.

 

[teeville5]

No. Let it be. To say anything is giving him a significance he does not deserve and opens a door giving him a chance to hurt you again. As others have said, he will get a thrill from it and who knows what he will do with that, but it won't be anything good. My ex sounds a bit like yours and to this day(child involved) takes any crumb he can get to take the upper hand. Needless to say, my life is a thousand times better now than his so his opportunities are extremely minimal and I plan to keep it that way. So should you.

 

[australorpchick]

jojo@rolling acres farm :

I went through something very similar. Don't do it. Let the past stay in the past. He has no control over you and your current life - leave it that way. Do not empower him by letting him know that he crosses your mind now and then.

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[debilorrah]

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I was just sitting her wondering if I was the only crazy one here. I think that if it is an excercise for closure, then go for it. And then block him so you won't ever see his response if he has one.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

Absolutely not. I'd block him. Do everything in your power to keep the past where it is, in the past. You definitely don't want to bring any drama into your current happy life.



I don't think it's going to bring you closure. It can only bring trouble in my opinion.

 

[Mattemma]

I would not.Let it go. I have heard it is good to put it all down on paper,but never mail it.Burn it instead.

 

[Helen29]

It's a hard one. But I think you should take into consideration how this would make your husband feel, I know it would really bother mine that my ex could still make me feel so mad. He would think I had unfinished business, don't lower yourself!! Let him live his sad life and be content in the knowledge that you were strong enough not to live that life with him. Well done!

 

[chickensioux]

It is hard. I am struggling. Every one of these opinions/advise is good. I have wondered for years what I would say if anything if given this chance. Part of me soooooo wants him to know what a piece of **** he was and how hard it was to overcome it.........

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

I would not have any words with him at all. Who knows what kind of person he has turned into after all these years. Even though you think letting him know what a piece of cr*p he was to you all those years ago may make you feel better, it may also make you feel worse or backfire altogether. If you are happy in your life now, and these feelings are not causing you any extreme mental distress, I would just let the past be the past. I do know it is difficult though. Blocking him is a good idea and then go spend a nice day with your wonderful husband and kids

 

[booker81]

I'd ask your husband what you should do, after all, he's been your partner for a long time, and he knows you better than we would. He also might not care for the idea of you reaching out to this guy, no matter the reason. If he says go ahead, for closure, then do so, with him by your side, with his OK on what you write.