I'm a new mother and going out of my mind! help!

[miss_thenorth]

Hi, I want to ditto several statements.

1- talk to a lactation consultant. Not only will they help you with your diet, they are great moral support, and also help you know when to pump to get the most milk. I highly stress this.

2-One thing about housework, is it will be there tomorrow. You need to take care of yourself, and your baby. Your dh , IMO needs to be a little more sympathetic/empathetic. and crockpots can be your best friend. I hate to say it, but if he expects the house to be tidy, and meat and potatoes, the broom is in the closet, meat is in the fridge, etc, and he knows what to do with it.

3- Get someone in to help you. Either take the baby for a walk, or take the baby so you can get a walk in, or get someone in for an hour to do some housework. If not family or friends, offer a neighbour kid to come in. You need to have some time to yourself.

Keep your baby in your bed with you--no probs there, and it does make things easier.

My son was high needs, spirited by some definitions.slep with us for 6 months. he is now 12, still spirited, and is now mildly lactose intolerant. He wasn't by definition colicky, but definitely high needs. My hubby just had to be patient, and he either had to relax his standards on food and housework, or pitch in himself. We got through that rough time and 12 years later are still happily married.

good luck!

 

[summerwindsfarm]

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I dont agree at all. When your frazzled you need a place to vent and other parents know a lot more about raising a fussy baby than a doctor does. Dont get me wrong.. you need to let the doctor rule out any physical problems first. But once thats done theres nothing better than talking to other parents!

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My oldest slept with me for the first 9 months of his life and then transitted to his baby bed just fine. My youngest spent most of his first 3 years in our bed because his asthma was so severe i was worried he would have an attack and i wouldnt know it. He actually *insisted* the he sleep in a *big boy* bed like his brother cause he wasnt a *baby anymore!* lol. So nah.. letting them sleep with you when they are tiny doesnt mean they will always sleep in your bed.

 

[Wildsky]

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Sorry but that right there is FUNNY!

Same as folks who tell you to stop nursing at a certain time - AS IF baby will still be interested when they hit HIGHSCHOOL

 

[asher]

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I agree completely. Can I also recommend a sling? You can wear her on your (DH can, too!), you can nurse her in it with your hands free. It makes things wayyyy easier. My 1rst was very much like you are describing.

:aww

BTW, all of my kids co-slept until they were 2yrs old. They're all happily in their own beds now and most have been for years! (One is 3yrs old so I can't say years for her! ;-) )

 

[Katy]

cajunlizz.....I learned waaaay more from other mothers who had been there and done that with their babies, than I ever did from my kids' pediatrician when it came to the everyday things with my kids. He was a good doctor and I valued his opinion and expertize, but moms who've raised their own children are a great resource for young mothers. I would never tell her not to take her baby to the doctor, but I can guarantee that I learned some things along the way that a doctor would never think to tell her.

 

[Linda in San Diego]

3rd. ) You keep reverting back to bringing her into your bed , if you do not stop this now , she will still be sleeping IN YOUR BED when she starts school

That was certainly not my experience. They were in their own beds easily enough once they were older and we all slept better than if I tried to start them off in their own beds - to each their own.​

 

[arlee453]

Wildsky, I've got tears in my eyes from your post!

You cracked me up big time! You are SOOOO right about that - people who think a 6 month old baby is too 'OLD' to be nursing...what DO they think - that the kid will still want to nurse when he's ready for kindergarten?

Of course, when our young men get a bit older, they do develop an interested in breasts again...but that doesn't seem to have anything to do with how long they breastfed, does it?? LOL!

 

[MandyH]

Arlee, you are cracking me up here. But I do have to agree with the previous poster about pediatricians not knowing everything. Mine told me that projectile vomiting EVERY TIME i fed and burped my child was "normal" NORMAL??!! to puke until you are dehydrated? I think not, I finally had enough of it and fixed the problem myself. Turns out, that fool didn't even have kids, if she had of, she would have felt a whole lot different about the advice she was giving.

 

[candrnyen]

hi
funny or stupid question time!!! DH stands for husband right? or is it something else?? lol
I just want to be sure I'm on the right page.

 

[asher]

Yes, it does. Sorry!