I'm a new mother and going out of my mind! help!

[cajunlizz]

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YES , I just found it strange to see a Posting about a 5 month old baby , instead fo reading about a 5 month old CHICK . LOL /..............

But since she did ASK the questions in here , I proceeded to respond . I raised 3 children . Oldest is 40 and youngest is 25 . I also raised my 2 neices after their mother got killed in a car accident when they were 7 months and 21 months old . I have several grand kids , SO YES , I did respond to her question , JUST found it funny it was posted in a chicken forum . LOL When I 1st. started reading her POST , I really thought she was posting about a 5 month old chicken . lol

 

[Katy]

You'll notice that she posted it in the me, my chickens and my family section.....not in the raising chick section. That's what this section is for. To share good and bad news about our family and friends and to come for help with things that don't have anything to do with chickens.

 

[cajunlizz]

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All babies are different. Just because yours slept through the night at 3-4 weeks old, doesn't mean hers should be.

Mine didn't sleep through the night for...well, I honestly don't remember, but it was a long time. Then I know others (even who parented the exact same way as me) that slept through the first week.

Unfortunately, with children, there's no hard and fast rule that fits them all. Many days, I sure wish there was! hehe

IF you noticed , I DID SAY USUALLY . Its NOT etched in stone , but usually when a baby is content and no colic or gassy problems , they sleep alot longer and by 5 months are " USUALLY " sleeping all night long .

 

[summerwindsfarm]

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You realize that most of a doctors nutritional information comes from the companies that make formula dont you sigh. Someone said that they breast fed their babies til they started grabbing food off their plate and then they put them in a high chair to eat. I think thats about the best advice ive heard for feeding solids yet lol. Thats how mother nature *created* babies to eat.

Not all babies need solids before 6 months..some do..some dont. NO baby should have more solid food than milk though thats for sure. Until a year formula or breast milk should make up the major part of a babies diet.

That said the recommendation for waiting til a baby is 6 months old..and then starting them on *meals* is, imo, going too far the other way sigh.

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Yep and a lot of doctors still push formula over breast milk at the slightest indication. Why? Because they are marketed to sigh.

 

[summerwindsfarm]

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Colic can strike any time. Most colicy babies have a pattern and will be colicy at about the same times every day. But its not specifically an evening problem.

 

[cajunlizz]

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I was VERY young when I had my 1st. child and she was born by emergency C-section , and dr. did NOT advise me to nurse with the c-section . I was NOT cut in a bikini Cut like they do now , SO I nursed her for 3 days and , I was contracting from the sucking just like I was in labor all over again. So dr. put her on a bottle .... when SON was born I had double pneumonia when he was born and with the c-section , plus all the high fever and strong antibotics I COULD NOT nurse him . My youngest I nursed her for a year .

If you have never breastfed a baby (regardless of the reason) then you have no personal experience about what should be normal or not for a breastfed baby. Period.

Edited to add....I have to correct myself here - I did not read the post carefully enough to see that you did feed one child for a year. All the spaces make it really hard to read your posts to understand what you are trying to say sometimes.

YES I did feed my youngest daughte r on my breast for ayear , BUT it was NOT her only thing that she consumed . She was a VERY healthy child also , SO dr.'s are FULL of it when they say NO cereal no nothing til at least 6 months old . I had very healthy children .


I will end in saying , GOOD LUCK with your baby and DO AS YOU WISH . I am a Mother of 3 , carried 5 , lost 2 . and I am experienced in childcare . SO , GOOD LUCK AGAIN .

 

[LilRalphieRoosmama]

It's been almost 20 years but boy oh boy can I relate! My daughter (first) was colicky too and I can certainly sympathize with how you are feeling. I didn't nurse (because my husband AT THE TIME) thought it was disgusting. Sorry I missed out on that...

But anyway, I had to switch her to a special formula and that still didn't help. I did try the infant gas drops and they worked like a charm. Now, whenever I go to a baby shower, that is always one of the gifts I give and new moms are always grateful. It's worth a try.

We also laid her on her back and gently lifted her legs, bent her knees, up and towards the stomach to get the gas out.

As far as letting her sleep with you, at this point until you can get the gas problem under control, do what you feel is best. Others are right - they can sense your frustration and that makes it worse. If you are comfortable, then the baby will relax too. I was very tense with my first and much more relaxed with the second. There was definitely a difference.

Your feelings are normal - hang in there and good luck!

 

[2 Beauts]

For the record, when most people say "sleeping through the night", it means 5-6 hours straight. Now, if you put her down for the night at 8, she's going to be up again at 2am. With my first I did not know that and was expecting her to sleep 8 hours.

As far as the gassiness goes, we tried a couple different things, usually one of them worked. Once you notice her getting gas, gently, but firmly, push her knees up towards her chest to put a little pressure on her intestines to force the gas out. If that doesn't work, try burping her by placing her across your knees with her intestines taking the bulk of her weight on your knee to force the gas out. And obviously, Mylicon drops!!


With the colic, I thankfully, have no first hand experience. But have read that putting them in thier carseat and placing them on the dryer while it's going helps. Something to do with the vibrations. DO NOT LEAVE UNATTENDED

Ask DH to take a few days vacation, and handle all the childcare.

 

[MissPrissy]

Most diagnosis of colic has been found to be acid reflux in majority of babies. If your doctor will not listen and help you diagnose her properly my best advise is to find another doctor who will listen to you.

 

[Jolyn]

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Good advise!!!!!!