I'm just sick of this....

[tonini3059]

I would get it. If you aren't hurting for money and pay rent on time I see no reason why it would matter considering you already have one goat so it is not like you need to build a whole pen/house for her.
Also I lived with my husband for 3 years before we were married and it worked fine..I'm 23 and he is 26. It is better to see if you can live together before you get married!

 

[allanimals21]

I'm letting it sink in for a lil bit here. I'm gonna keep complaining about it for a little bit longer then I'm just gonna put it all out there like you guys said. I don't drink...I don't do drugs...I quit smoking almost a year ago so I could have more money and be healthier. So I think they should just let me do it. The animals don't hurt them in anyway. Infact they are always happy to have people over and show the animals off. Or talk about them...or take pics of them. It just bothers me so much... We are waiting to build...it sucks having to wait. But he doesn't seem to be in the kinda hurry to rent a place until then. So I am stuck here. I just think I am gonna have to confront them about all of this. I mean like I said more animals means nothing to them. They don't take care of them. My animals have never done anything bad out here. They never get out...or get loose. Grrrr!!!! This doe is so flippin cute too!

 

[Kelly G]

My input...for what it's worth...

When in Rome, you must do as the Romans do.

It's that simple. Use this as a motivation for you two to get out on your own. There is NO freedom like the freedom of owning your own space. Set a goal, then set out to achieve it.


Good luck! You can do this!

 

[horsejody]

I only have one question. Why do you need their permission? Why would you give anybody that kind of authoruty over your life? Ok, that's two questions, but you get my point. I can see it being an issue if you all live under the same roof or if there is a lease specifying that you need their permission. However, if you are renting a whole house on enough property with no lease restrictions, get what you want. Don't let other people make your decisions for you. They only have control over you if you give them that control.

 

[Chook-A-Holic]

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I must say I 100% agree with this. I'm just curious as to why the in-laws even know about the goat. I may be wrong but it seems to me that someone is running to mommy and daddy and telling them that you want another animal. Then again, maybe they know out of respect of their property. You are grown, if you want the goat, go get it (pending restrictions).

Just a question though, are you and the BF paying the going rate for rent, or are you getting a special rate so you can save to build your own place? If you are getting a cut rate on the rent, then I can sorta see the reason for the conflict. They look at it as helping you get started in life and yet you are spending money that you could be paying them for rent, housing and feeding animals. Good Luck!!!

 

[allanimals21]

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I must say I 100% agree with this. I'm just curious as to why the in-laws even know about the goat. I may be wrong but it seems to me that someone is running to mommy and daddy and telling them that you want another animal. Then again, maybe they know out of respect of their property. You are grown, if you want the goat, go get it (pending restrictions).

Just a question though, are you and the BF paying the going rate for rent, or are you getting a special rate so you can save to build your own place? If you are getting a cut rate on the rent, then I can sorta see the reason for the conflict. They look at it as helping you get started in life and yet you are spending money that you could be paying them for rent, housing and feeding animals. Good Luck!!!

The reason they know is because I asked. We don't have a set agreement about any of it. I've already learned the hard way that its better to ask them/or tell them about it versus just getting it. As it turns out I may have the final ok. Its a complicated situation here. I just can't wait to have our own place. These kinda things fuel the fire for me.

 

[bawkbawkbawk]

Is there a lot of wear and tear on the property from the animals? I've never had goats but my understanding is that they eat pretty much anything and everything. Perhaps they are concerned about the burgeoning population of animals and the effect it has on re-sale of the property, on the neighbors, etc?

Or perhaps there are deeper underlying issues between them/you/fiance that are not being discussed and the frustration is coming out over the animals?

His parents have probably lived on this property for quite some time and their nerves may be fraying from having you both staying there.

Bottom line, there are ALWAYS strings attached with family. The only way to be free of them is to be out on your own.

 

[Lazy J Farms Feed & Hay]

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It may be your money but it is HIS property.

If you want more control then you need to stop playing house, get married, then move out from under their control.

Jim

 

[Kelly G]

Lazy J Farms Feed & Hay :

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It may be your money but it is HIS property.

If you want more control then you need to stop playing house, get married, then move out from under their control.

Jim

I agree.

If you do this, you'll never regret it (the part on getting out on your own - I don't know if this is the right guy for you...only you know that in your heart of hearts).

Seriously - be independant and capable (just two qualities of many that are important). Being independant is liberating!​

 

[FarmerChick]

Hard situation. Remember though you are going to be their daughter in law and getting animals when they veto it could set yourself up for bad feelings for the future.
Just an observation. renting from them means you may just have to be satisfied with what you have....sounds like you have nice animals now, why push. there will be plenty more goats etc. out there to have later when you have your own place.

sometimes the "draw" is the better way to proceed.

just throwing that out for ya..lol