I'm just sick of this....

[Sunny Side Up]

Here's a

for you & your dilemma. And know that folks are here to

when you just want to vent.

And the following is just my $.02 in case you were asking for it

Why not work out an action plan with your fiance so you can get a place of your very very own & never ever have to rent and abide by rules from any landlord? And then work towards achieving that before adding any more animals to your flocks & herds?
I truly

you for spending your time & $$$ with your animals instead of wasting it at the bars. If we lived closer you'd have at least one pal who felt the same way. I bet you know a lot about animal care, is there a 4-H or FFA or Big Sisters or Boys & Girls Club in your area who needs a mentor?

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

Just kind of putting this out there...

Your fiance may be venting to his family about you, which is causing the strife. They are only getting HIS side of the story. Then there's always the thing that he's worried the animals will take precedence over him, especially in the money department when you move away from that area. Will you be paying part of the rent? What about when you need to combine your money? Money is a delicate issue in a marriage, but it's one that has to be dealt with.

I'm not saying from experience, Lord knows I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 years. We haven't gotten married or engaged yet because we're simply not in a position to do so, but this is just an outside perspective for you.

 

[allanimals21]

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The money thing isnt an issue. We decided in the begining that our money would never be combined. I have my money and he has his money. He has his "habits" and I have mine. lol Like I said he enjoys the animals too. He will complain to me at times about certain things about them but he knows they make me happy.

We were looking for a place last year but we are going to build instead. Which means we have to wait for somethings but thats what he wants so I guess I will wait. Its just really frusterating to be told what I should and shouldnt do at my age.

 

[organicfoltzfamilyfarm]

My husband and I dated for about 3 years before we were married. I'm only 20

shhh! But I'll be 21 on Jan 6th which I don't care about because I no longer drink. We have been together for over 5 years.

Anyhow before we bought this house we was supposed to buy from my husband parents...so we fixed up the house spent around uhhh. $5,000 and then they said they didn't want to sell it they wanted to rent....I WAS LIKE WHAT?! Oh well they have been like that since day 1. We just don't do business anymore. To much of a hassle.

So he saved money (I'm a stay at home mom because my daughter has Cystic Fibrosis) and we bought this house 2 months ago. WOOOHOO!

So my suggestion is get away from them. They just feel like they have the right to say something because you live on their land. I bet they wouldn't talk like that if you had your own place.

Any business with family is bad business. THEEND.

Good luck sweetie hope something works out! I'm lucky my husband has the same goals and hobbies as I do. If we didn't it would be hell to try and do this all on my own.

 

[organicfoltzfamilyfarm]

OH AND BTW my husband and I lived together since I was 16 almost 17.....and we're fine!!!! We had an apartment. He's 22 and I'm 20.

 

[shawnkfl]

i would be saving money to move out to your own place. even if you rent a little farm. that would be my only goal for 2010.

 

[lorieMN]

I had inlaws like that...key word HAD..anyway..explain to them that you are not out drinking,smoking or running around on their son so just lighten up about the goat..I may not have said that to them at your age,,but at 42,,I tell people the way it is,and you will someday also..also tell them you have no problem getting insurance for the livestock..really it shouldnt cost more then $100 or so per year,we pay an extra $150 per year here for ours just added on to the home owners,for the horses.

 

[cassie]

I once knew an old man whose family was always telling him how to run his life. He just smiled sweetly, agreed heartily with all of them, and then did as he darn well pleased. worked for him.

 

[redhen]

well..i could see if they had a no animal rule..but they let you get other animals before...
see i'm a jerk and i'd just go get the doe...wouldnt even be a problem for me...
if they kick you out just take your sweet time finding a place that you can bring your animals too.
i think if you call their bluff, they'll back down...
just my opinion...
but dont follow my advice...you may end up homeless with 2 goats in tow...

 

[Hillsvale]

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redhen :

well..i could see if they had a no animal rule..but they let you get other animals before...
see i'm a jerk and i'd just go get the doe...wouldnt even be a problem for me...
if they kick you out just take your sweet time finding a place that you can bring your animals too.
i think if you call their bluff, they'll back down...
just my opinion...
but dont follow my advice...you may end up homeless with 2 goats in tow...

YUP!! If you are paying your way... do it!​