I'm just sick of this....

[FarmerChick]

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My fiance is taking over the whole goat situation. He is talking with the in laws about it. The only reason I want another one so bad is my Billy needs a friend. The insurance thing is apparently settled. So hopefully I will be picking her up this weekend? or next?

Next time you get permission to get "a goat" or " a animal X"----bring home 2
just say the pair is 1 purchase...LOL


Their property is their property. Sometimes you have to just let them have their say and get out on your own as fast as you can. It is never fun living under "anyone's" rules. We all want freedom to do our own thing, but that comes with the price tag of our own personal land.

 

[twister]

if you are to be their daughter in law, it would pay to calm the fire, rather than stroke it. why further alienate yourself ?

 

[Chickenmaven]

As I read through this, I just couldn't figure out the rental situation. Do you & your fiance live WITH the in-laws, by chance? Do you rent a house from them & they live elsewhere? It makes a huge difference.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Haven't read it all, BUT, if you are living with a spouse or fiance, then income is generally considered joint income--not yours and mine, but OURS. To what extent are you contributing to the living expenses? Do y'all have a budget that allocates where your income goes? I'm not saying that spouses don't or shouldn't have individual discretionary monies (allowances, if you prefer), but they should make an overall spending plan that is fair to the family as a whole (in this case, you and your fiance). Money disagreements are one of the largest causes of fights and divorce.

As long as you are living on land owned by a close family member and have no rental contract or formal lease, everything is their call, regardless of whether you and your fiance are on the same page about an issue or not.

There are a LOT of red flags in your relationship; the doe is merely a symptom, not the problem. You need to sort them out and make some decisions and choices.

 

[Lazy J Farms Feed & Hay]

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I hope the OP takes your advice to heart.

Jim

 

[SarahBeth9394]

If they have allowed a farm animal then they have allowed what the zoning in the area allows. If the zoning says you can have X amount of livestock for the property size then that is what you can have. If they have no set contract that says only one goat then they are the shortsighted ones as far as being landlords goes.

But really I'd get the heck out of there. It's not like you and your fiance can't change your goals. Wouldn't getting married come before building a house? Personally I would want the commitment of marriage before the home ownership. Personally I'd tell him to poop or get off the pot. By being on their property without a contract they have taken that to mean that they will make your life decisions for you. Time for you two to truly be on your own or you both will be allowing them to be involved in your life decisions. I think I'd rather give birth to a full grown porcupine then have future inlaws butting in.