Im kinda mad about this....

[AngieChick]

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I recommend watching Nova's program on the teen brain. It will explain everything. Basically, they are insane. They lack the prefrontal cortex development to make long term decisions. Ironic considering the long term consequences of some actions that tend to happen at their age. It's a turning point in their lives and they are many times not up to the task.

Nobody is perfect, and forcing a young girl AND her baby to live on the streets and starve or freeze to death would be a bit harsh. That is the reality they would face in this economy, with the cost of child care without ANY help from parents or charity. Just do a little research into the lives of unwed mothers in Victorian England. Their lives were short and difficult, as were their childrens'. If one of my teen age sons fathered a child, I would be sad and disappointed, but you can bet that they would have me to depend on to help them as long as I was able. There is no way that my grandchild would go hungry or that my child would be slated for a life of poverty because I was too busy judging them to help. There would be much responsibiliyy on their shoulders, they wouldn't be allowed to not be a parent. That being said, they really don't want to be young parents and hopefully we have educated them enough to not risk it. But, as I said before, teenagers are crazy.

To the OP - there are lots and lots of bad and neglectful parents of any age. It's frustrating, especially when you are witnessing it first hand. But believe me, teen or young Moms do not have a corner on the bad parent market. The other question is: where are the fathers? Why are they allowing their children to be raised by a someone that is neglectful?

 

[schellie69]

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but really, even IF she was 14yo who were THEY to judge? coming off half cocked without knowing the first thing about a person or their circumstances just invites embarrassment, my best friend has four, older interracial children, and she is very young to have them, and sometimes people give her disgusted looks, but what they dont know is that "her kids" are really her siblings, their mother died and she dropped everything and made huge sacrifices to take them in and mother them, certainly not a person who deserves dirty looks!

Yes unfortunately this was not the only time this happened to myself and my daughter, I have children raging in age from 22-14 both my daughters (one who is mentally challenged) was at the store with the new grand daughter my oldest still looked pregnant at the time she had high blood pressure so it took a while for her body to readjust after having the baby and there were some woman that said how could you just have a baby and now be pregnant again and made rude comments to my daughter who is challenged about growing up and how could I allow my teenage daughter to have a child it was really bad by the time these women were done my challenged daughter was in tears my oldest daughter felt really bad about how she looked and I was really mad and then told them off I hate when people make judgments about somebody else I try not to judge people and your friend is a really great person to step in and take over raising her siblings I think people need to try and see things from another point before they judge I have tried to teach my kids never to judge people until you have walked in their shoes but there are quite a few mean spirited people out there that think they are better then everyone else

 

[chickenlover54]

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Agreed, that AND no more handouts. I think the welfare, WIC, food stamp, etc., system in the country has created a handout to pregnant girls. They should receive ZERO support and that includes from the girls parents. I think this behavior should be shunned and the baby daddy made to take responsiblity. I wonder how many would be pregnant when they HAVE to attend to their own child and figure out how to feed them and themselves! Follow the money....

My sister had her first child at 21 after being with her boyfriend for only a few weeks, she is still with the father now and she is 27. Their WIC is a life saver to them. The father is a cook at Bob Evans and my sister is a stay at home mom, they can't ever make ends meet. She got her CNA degree which is very hard for a stay at home mom, 5 years ago when she worked at WalMart her manager was a real jerk and my sister called him an a** and she was fired, she has not been able to get a job since then. The fact that you would blatenly say no help should be given makes me sick to my stomach. Should the girls turn to prostition to be able to buy their kids food?

 

[Purple Eagle]

I am 16 years old and I will tell you exactly why kids are having sex, its curiosity. In my school they teach abstinence, which is completely wrong. When we hear this we automatically take it as a joke, I know 2 people that don't plan to have sex until marriage. They are wasting their time and money teaching us about abstinence because most of us don't want to only have sex with one person our whole life. What they need to teach us is safe sex and pass out condoms which will cut down on pregnency and STDs. In my school sex is an accomplishment, guys brag about it and girls tell their friends with big mothes and tell them not to tell anyone but they really want everyone to know. Another problem is all the guys at my school watch porn which encourages them to have sex. Moderators if this needs to be edited because of some words feel free, I just wanted to get my point accross. Hope all the adults learned what is really going on.