Im kinda mad about this....

[lurky]

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LOL...... I agree with what you deleted

Dang..i missed it! But i agreed with it too...

I missed it too, but i can imagine what it was, and i know i would have agreed

 

[Dust Bunny]

i agree! many people are quite selfish, it really is possible to avoid getting pregnant!!! but many act as if its like catching a cold! angers me to no end! its very hard to grow up without both parents and yes sometimes this is just unavoidable, but why set the stage to be a single parent!!! its hard for the parent/s but ITS DEVASTATING FOR THE CHILD!!! my husband and i dont have or plan to have children despite our stable 19 year relationship, beautiful country home, and good incomes, we have 1.5 acres and i want a horse, my in laws tell me "you cant afford a horse" then in the next breath ask "when are you two having kids?" if they think i cant afford a horse (and we can!) what makes them think we can afford kids?! then they tell me its selfish to not have kids! what? does this world really need more unwanted children? i think not!!!

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

i got pregnant young but immediately gave up my wild ways. almost 9 years later, we've got 3. I don't recommend getting pregnant until you've at least finished college (as I slog through 3 credits at a time-all I can afford), and have someone ready to raise the child with you. I saw one of those mtv shows a while back, on pregnant teenagers, and it was SO sad. My Brother and SIL don't want kids, and that decision is partly a selfish one. They don't want to have to get up early, or get up in the middle of the night, or have to be responsible for anyone other than themselves... but what would be MORE selfish, would be to have a child and not take good care of it.

 

[SarahFair]

chickensducks&agoose :

i got pregnant young but immediately gave up my wild ways. almost 9 years later, we've got 3. I don't recommend getting pregnant until you've at least finished college (as I slog through 3 credits at a time-all I can afford), and have someone ready to raise the child with you. I saw one of those mtv shows a while back, on pregnant teenagers, and it was SO sad. My Brother and SIL don't want kids, and that decision is partly a selfish one. They don't want to have to get up early, or get up in the middle of the night, or have to be responsible for anyone other than themselves... but what would be MORE selfish, would be to have a child and not take good care of it.

I really like that show '16 and pregnant' and 'Teen Mom'....
It shows its not really all its cracked up to be​

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

yeah. it was 16 and pregnant. and the boyfriend was a jerk, and too old for that girl, and her parents were trying to be supportive, but she kept screaming at them.. and she had to quit school, and had no money, and then the baby kept her up all night forever... it was very sad. And yes, my BF was a jerk sometimes, and 8 years older than me (19 and 27) and my parents were not so happy, and I had to quit school and had no money and then the baby didn't sleep... but it was less sad, because i was 19, not 16, and I really wanted the baby, and understood that I had to make choices that were best for the baby. And my BF got a job, and he was committed to me and the baby.... the girls on tv didn't seem to really think about their babies as a priority. that's what made me so sad I guess. These poor innocent babies born to moms who don't care enough to stop going out drinking every night.

 

[redhen]

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I really like that show '16 and pregnant' and 'Teen Mom'....
It shows its not really all its cracked up to be

Yeah.. but i think that show is one of the reasons its "cool" again to be a pregnant teen....
Just my opinion....
Certain types of girls like to be in the "limelight".... and get attention because of it....
Just like the ones on t.v......

 

[schellie69]

I was 17 when I had my 1st daughter I quit school and raised my daughter had my 2nd when I was 19 ended up a single mother but that was better then being with abusive ex. my DD waited till she was 22 to get pregnant the 1st time. that relationship ended but she is now married and has another baby (don't believe the doctors that say your boyfriend can't have kids) they found out the hard way that he could they are living at home right now due to the economy being what it is. I am just glad that I have gotten 3 of my children into adult hood with out having kids at a young age, my youngest is 14 and he doesn't want kids till he's 30 so hopefully that is a good thing and stays that way. my kids know that I got married at 16 and had a baby by the time I was 17 and they also know that it was very hard no fun no going out with friends I didn't leave my kids with anyone I took them everywhere with me I know when my oldest son became a freshman there where like 9 or 10 girls in his class pregnant and one girl was on baby number 2, it makes me upset when I see these young girls and no sense what is best for the child, some think that its a way to get the boy they like to stay with them. its just a sad thing for everyone.

 

[WriterofWords]

I feel your pain, two former students brought their babies to see me today,, 15 and 16, and another 16 yr old is 28 weeks along. And they think it's a status symbol.

 

[PineappleMama]

Ah so you've met my sister.

Sadly that isn't really a joke.

She just had her third in Dec. by you guessed it a third father. She did marry the second one for a bit, but didn't want to settle down and started wandering. Just a mess.

 

[agnes_day]

i think a lot of it is that its "politically incorrect" to make these girls feel ashamed for their actions.
if they brought back the old fashioned maternity home, i bet that would go a long way in changing this way of thinking. that, and ive seen the girls moms act as if this is their chance to have another baby and praise their teen daughter for getting pregnant.
*yes i know the guys should be ashamed as well, but we are talking about girls specifically*