As the father of four? My kids are always thinking the other is getting the upper hand and "you love them more and you do more for them" attitude.
So let me explain it to you from my perspective.
One, it's my money and if I want to "loan" or give it away that's my business. Every kid feels "dad likes you best".
Two , I don't keep score as to who got what. Again it's my business. My kids didn't earn it, I did.
Three, funny how they don't want a two way street for me to tell them how they should spend their money. Always eating out and buying smokes and booze or toys. Why do the same kids who rebelled at their parents for telling them what to do, think they should tell their parents what to do?
Four, When I need something guess who is here? Not the one in TX or AL, but the ones they complain about. Last year my SIL , who by the way is not my favorite person , cleaned the snow off the roof and the gutters and mowed the grass and I'm sure a few other things I've forgotten. The DD who is a slob at house cleaning , closed up the chickens and collected eggs and watered them when I went away to visit the ones in AL and TX.
Five, I'm old and handicapped and I need someone here and unfortunately it's the ones I would choose who are not here and if they were wouldn't do squat for me. They're off living their dream and that's fine. So I take what I can get. I love all my kids the same but they aren't all the same. They aren't entitled to an inheritance.
Six, we all vent about things. Otherwise we'd have ulsers or be on meds. Such is life.
So while it may appear they are taking advantage of me and DW, looks can be deceiving.
Sorry if that seems harsh but someday you'll understand.
When Mom passed and left everything to my sister. Not one of us complained, cuz she earned it, by taking care of her when she was sick. She's the one Mom chose and that was fine. Some of us are not so lucky to have a choice.
Getting old sucks!
Rancher
