Is saying "thank you" so difficult?

[Lobzi]

Its bad and I dont see it getting any better. Not sure what is going on but I think it might be related to an increasing number of people sharing a limited amount of resources.

 

[hennypenny9]

I want all you people with the courteous children to move to my town!! And it's not just kids. At my work I always greet people. "Hi, how are you?" or "Good Morning!" And most of the time I don't get any response. Nothing. Then as they leave (even if they were rude) I tell them to have a good day. Nine out of ten times they just walk away. Grrrrrrr.

Once when I was maybe 11 I forgot to send my grandma a thank you card. I was normally very good about this. I thought it was fun to send things away in the mail, like little presents... Anyway, for years (!!) she stopped sending me anything. I had NO idea why until my grandpa told me. I felt so bad. I'd say give an 11 year old a second chance!!

 

[mmtillman]

Since our grandkids are older and harder to buy for now, at christmas and birthdays...we just opt to gift wrap movie, resturant and gift cards. They seem to love the idea .
But, I can bet those gift/food/movie companys are making money big time, cause everytime I ask the kids, if they used and enjoyed the gift/food/movie card we got for them yet, 9x out of 10 , they tell me they lost them or cant find them....I figure it is the thought that counts . If they cant keep track of them it is out of my hands....

 

[mmtillman]

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I agree about the rude people who wont acknowledge a greeting ~~ I too make it a point to try to '' PAY IT FORWARD' even if it is nothing more then a simple smile.
When people ignore a nice hello, I make it a point to repeat my greeting and hope they needed the kind words and smile.

 

[NancyDz]

I have the same problem with some of my nieces, I still don't know whether they got their Christmas gifts or not ( gift cards ) I know it's not their parents either as my brother has asked me in the past if they had contacted me to thank me. He's not too happy but I know he tells them, reminds them.. but what more can you do when they are late teens? When they were little they at least thanked me in person, now that they live 10 hours away and I rarely see them, they can't even send an email. Heck even a text message would be better than nothing... I know they send millions of them. What's one to their aunt??

Oh well....


Nancy

 

[Lucky Ducky]

My kiddos seem to do pretty good at saying Thank You. There are times that they have to be reminded, they are 5 & 7. On the other hand my grown SIL believes everyone owes her something and NEVER says Thanks, Kiss My Butt, nothing!! I've told my husband that I will no longer help his brother's wife with anything!! Once early on, I was informed that I no longer use my baby swing & they wanted it. In truth I was still using it once a month when I went scrapbooking because my DD was getting to big for it but the nerve of some people. Some people just do not and will not get it no matter what you say or do. I'm not perfect and I'm sure there are times that I don't remember to say Thank You but I do my best to do so. (Usually it's my Mom who I forget to thank!!!

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[eschwaderer]

My brother-in-law (raised by a wonderful family) not only will never say thank you, but will openly turn his nose up at a gift that he doesn't like. Needless to say he no longer receives anything from us.

 

[ams3651]

From my point of view, when someone in my family helps me out if Im in a pinch I find it hard to say thank you because Im ashamed of asking for help. I didnt grow up having to say it to immediate family, it was implied that it was appreciated. When it was a gift from an aunt or distant relative of course a note was called for. I struggle with it still as my boyfriend and my step father are of the sort that they expect thank yous for everything. I try to remind myself to say it but if I forget they understand that its implied.

 

[Dar]

thank you does not need to be words...it can be a hug too,...I am not good with publicly saying i am in need of something but if my family does something for me i will make a point of getting them in a quiet place and if i cant do that then i will phone them and express my gratitude. not everything needs to be a huge public display

 

[ursusarctosana]

Not all people/children who are labeled rude are trying to be rude. For example, people who have a nonverbal communication disorder such as autism may not realize they are behaving in a way that is perceived as rude by others. They may not be able to make direct eye contact because it is too stressful or confusing to them. They may not reciprocate, so may not, in their world, understand the necessity of words and small talk like, "Hello" and "Thank you" and "Good morning". Sometimes they may wonder what they did wrong and be able to perceive that people around them are cold toward them, not understanding the aloofness they, themselves, present.

Just FYI.