It begins: Attack of the Momzilla (update post 62)

[Chicks_N_Horses]

I am going to just tell you to do what you want to do.

It is your day!

My Dh and I Went through the motions of a wedding planning.....mostly to please others because I have never been into a fancy wedding for myself. I was thrilled one morning when my DH said forget it all and lets go get married right now, I can't wait. So, off to the courthouse in full camo and we have been married happily for over 10 yrs and so glad we did it that way. Whatever makes you happy is what you do, everyone else will eventually understand

CONGRATS too!

 

[sfw2]

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Jenn,

Just assume she meant it, and hold her to it.

When DH and I got engaged, my Dad (half-jokingly) offered us $10K to elope. I loved our small church wedding and friends-and-family reception, but there were times we wished we'd taken him up on the offer!

Have fun on YOUR day.

 

[texasgal]

Oh my ....

We got married in a gazebo .. with BBQ afterward .. immediate family only .. reception at the church that afternoon. It was HOT .. a train came by just as we were starting our vows .. but we are just as married as the next folks!!

I could just never see spending more energy on the wedding than on the marriage ..

BTW .. if we were talking about MILs.. I could tell a story or two.... hehehehe

She ended up staying home .. much to our relief!

BTW .. classic "mom is pouting" response .. she'll get over it.

 

[NancyDz]

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i wouldnt read too much into it.. just take it for what she said, it's not her call , have fun with it, she loves you no matter what.

Try to include her somewhere.. she may just feel left out.


Nancy

 

[redhen]

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I'd love to be married in Hawaii! I already told Jenn thats what shes doing..

 

[justhatchin]

Do what you want it is your time. It sounds like mom is trying to impress the town. Keeping up an image. Every mother trying to out do the other. She should be more considerate of your feelings but remember you will have daughters of your own one day..

Every one should try to understand the others feelings and point of view.
First wedding -church- mom and I fought

she thought it was a mistake- it was!!

2 children

9 years..

2nd wedding -eloped to Las Vegas-

5 yrs- I knew it was a mistake.

Should of- could of-but didn't-silly of me. As I think back now- ---I guess it got me moved to where I met my now hubby.

I always swore I would never marry again---

but after 14 years of living together

-- for legal reasons. We got married last august. planned in 2 weeks.

blue jeans- our pasture -my sister made the flowers as a gift-my kids and their families, a few friends, his sister- the preacher from his moms church( she died 2 years ago- had begged us to marry- my mom in a nursing home -could not come) the local cafe furnished a buffet upon request( for a fee) and the regular customers thought it was great they got to eat it too. Our little party I believe 21 plates. Cost including rings,preacher and dinner- a little over $500.

PRICELESS!!

Not quite a redneck wedding.

Who told me to smile

 

[JennsPeeps]

Thanks everyone! I was so bummed and mad last night that I hardly slept. I really needed the "this is about you, not her" pep talks!

BTW, I offered on facebook to name our firstborn after anyone who slips my mom a 5-spot at the wedding. Got 3 takers so far, meaning our firstborn's name will be "Gina Donalda Bottoms".

Hope it's not a boy.

 

[halo]

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Two words???? hahahahah.....reminds me of American Idol when Kara said "I have 6 words for you...one of the best performances of the night".

Sorry didnt mean to hijack.....

And Jenn, you do what you want to do. When its all over and done with, it will be your memories for your wedding, just like your mother had her memories for hers. Make sure they are yours.

 

[mom'sfolly]

Its your day, your mother can throw herself a fancy rededication ceremony if she wants to manage a wedding.

The funnest (my new word) wedding I ever went to was at a gazebo in a local park, with friends and family attending. The park was in full fall colors, the best man restored cool old cars and played chauffer for the bride and groom, and the reception was dinner at a very nice restuarant. It was small, intimate and fun. The friends of the bride took away the fancy knife for cake cutting, and a well used dive knife was substitued. After dinner we all went to the couples apartment where the father of the ride made weird drinks and everyone sat around, laughed and talked for hours. It was fun, and the bride and groom got to have the people they loved around them for a good day and good memories.

Do what works for you and to hell with anyone else.

 

[DuckLady]

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So take her at her word and pretend to see nothing under that.

Dear Mom,
Thanks for your support. It means the world to me. I appreciate it!
Love JennsPeeps