Marriage

[littlekit]

Life can be awful. I'm so sorry. We are here. I hope you get answers.

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

 

[deb1]

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I don't know. If her husband is so disrespectful that he won't even explain what is happening or why he feels compeled to walk out of a thirty-two year marriage, then I wonder if it is worth saving.

If this situation doesn't change then the OP needs a good lawyer to protect herself.

My FIL left my Mil after thirty some years of marriage. My MIL was suffering from MS and she signed paperwork giving her exhusband everything. She just trusted him. He literally dumped his bedridden wife on his daughter's front lawn. My MIL had an inheritance that the father just blew through without spending any on her. My hubby and I wanted to look into legal action but we lived out of state and SIL and MIL just wanted the matter to come to an end.

So, I would advise anyone in this situation to CYA (cover your @@@)and get a lawyer. That doesn't mean that you are going to get a divorce, just that you are aware of your options incase that a divorce happens.

 

[BlackBart]

I am sorry

Maybe it is male mid-life crisis or some people call male menopause? lots of info on the Net, Andropause is the clinical name.

This has happened to a few girlfriends of mine. Their Husband of 30-35 years decides the wife is boring and they need to find themselves, they need space, they are confused and don't know what they want, they think there is something better out there. They are afraid of getting old.
The men's ages range from late 40's to middle 50's.

Research your options and legal standing, think of yourself first. That is something that woman rarely do.

 

[lou]

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Hoosiermomma you made me laugh. Thank you Lou

 

[boaz]

People can do some remarkably harmful things to each other and the whys are for the history books. Europe is really nice this time of year, if you don't mind flying, I suggest one of the 7 day cruises out of Venice. Probably cost you under a thousand in fares and then hotels, meals, etc. Sometimes the most difficult thing to do is nothing but take care of your cardiovascular system.

 

[mamaKate]

Absolutely call a lawyer. I know it's painful and I'm not suggesting you give up hope. It's amazing how many people will do something you'd never expect. I see how many critters you have. Make sure your life stays (at least financially) secure.

 

[sfw2]

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Great idea, Boaz! Lou - any chance you could book this trip using your husband's credit card??

 

[fordmommy]

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[TipsyDog]

I don't know what I would do in your situation. I pray you get answers to your questions and I'm so sorry this happened. I wish you well.