Marriage

[pokey]

well i wasn't married 32 years but 17 to a man whom i thought i'd spend the rest of my life with. that was before the reality check..... yeah i spent a few months trying to figure out what was wrong and how to fix our marriage. yeah right....... i definetly advise an attorney. this is someone who has your best interest in mind while you are out of your mind.but, i also know that GOD does not close one door without opening another. i have a super sweet hubby and a daughter now. that was not the case before, and my life is soooo much better. many prayers for you lou, and you are not alone. just pray and believe.

 

[lou]

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Hi MamaKate I am in the process of doing that. I have a lot of critters because I have a farm animal sanctuary. Most of the animals are rescued. I just recently quit my job at the insistance of my husband that I couldn't do it all. I worked for a walk in minor emergency medical clinic for 18 years. Lou

 

[joebryant]

Next time you take something to the cleaners, take him with you.

 

[Robin'sBrood]

I don't know what to say...

 

[goobhen]

You are in my thoughts and prayers, I agree with Mahroni, nothing is finale and men usually need to have someone in the wings waiting...I hope you can talk to your husband and work things out. If that is not possible, at least maybe have some closure for you! As someone else said, God always opens one door when one closes! This is the third marriage I heard this happen to in the last two weeks! What is going on?

 

[debilorrah]

Lou, I just am at a loss for words. I am really praying this is a mid life crisis for him and once he finds a red corvett he will come home. Minus the 22 year old blonde.

 

[BarkerChickens]

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A midlife crisis is what I was thinking too. Hopefully it is him "missing" his single days....AND staying single! I am praying that whatever happens is the best thing for you!

While an affair seems awfully likely, many guys want ALONE time to figure their own issues out. So, he may truly be faithful, but separated right now.

 

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Fourth. It happened to my daughter after 18 years of marriage. I thought this guy hung the moon. Obviously not.

 

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It seems to me women scream and cry and have PMS and shop all their lives and men have a ONE whopper of a midlife crisis.

 

[BarkerChickens]

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Fourth. It happened to my daughter after 18 years of marriage. I thought this guy hung the moon. Obviously not.

My sister and brother-in-law had a similar problem. They ended filing for legal separation and he found a fling. He ended up realizing that it wasn't what he wanted and they went to marriage counseling (she didn't realize there was a problem, but sometimes small things become a problem after years of not talking about it). They are happily working things out now (which is good since they have 3 kids at home). We thought he hung the moon as well, but nobody is perfect in reality. In his case, he was diagnosed with PTSD and they think that had a lot to do with it.​