Mean Kids

[Cheeky Chick]

These kind of stories just break my heart. My two older kids were bullied terribly in school, my son still sees alot of it and it infuriates me, but he's at the point where he'll just take care of it himself. The one thing you must know is: You need to have a paper trail. Do not count on the school to keep a record, (I went to school and reported every single thing. When we finally sued the school after he had to have surgery for a broken nose, those files "disappeared"...) Call the police. Tell them it's not an emergency, you need to file a report of harassment. They will keep it in their computer system, and if this continues, or escalates-you have a record. Also, if you go to the school to report the incidents, write it all down and make the principal SIGN IT.

Trust me-the schools are out for themselves more than they will advocate for your child. After winning a lawsuit from the school, my kids are watched carefully. Not so that you'd know, but they make sure they can walk safely on school property.

My son punched a kid in the face last year. the child started with him, and put his hands on my son. He soon learned that Sean is no longer willing to be a victim. The principal called me down, and I told him I'd be buying my son ice cream for standing up for himself. he offered to pay for it. It's all about who touched who first and what kind of support your child has. Most bullies are missing that support and guidance at home.

Good luck to you and your daughter. Kids are truly messed up these days.

 

[warmheart]

Rosie, I love your post. You've done your homework with the paper trail, very sensible-- and I love that you've empowered your child. Someday, office politics won't ruffle him in the least, and he'll be able to calmly define healthy boundaries.

 

[Cheeky Chick]

Rosie, I love your post. You've done your homework with the paper trail, very sensible-- and I love that you've empowered your child. Someday, office politics won't ruffle him in the least, and he'll be able to calmly define healthy boundaries.

Thanks, Patti! I think if all parents of bullied kids knew all the things they could do to protect their child, Amazing that nobody lets them know!) bullies would never be able to cause so many problems.

I truly hope I've helped someone in some small way.

 

[herfrds]

Thanks Rosie!
Principal and myself are at odds over a different issue. Doubt he would do anything nor the superintendent.

My DS was also bullied terribly. I finally had enough and after the same old thing of tell the teacher, play somewhere else, and stay away from the bully. Hit the bully back! He had a kid sucker punch him in the back and DS punched him back in the nose. Kid has not touched DS since.

I just feel bad for DD. Told me tonight that the other kids do not want to play with her. She is not in sports like the other kids due to her history of seizures.
I know she is lonely and I just wish there is something I can do to make her feel better.

On a good note at least she has fun with the kids in her 4-H club. we also attend a class on croucheting and she gets along with a couple of younger girls who also attend.

 

[Cheeky Chick]

Thanks Rosie!
Principal and myself are at odds over a different issue. Doubt he would do anything nor the superintendent.

My DS was also bullied terribly. I finally had enough and after the same old thing of tell the teacher, play somewhere else, and stay away from the bully. Hit the bully back! He had a kid sucker punch him in the back and DS punched him back in the nose. Kid has not touched DS since.

I just feel bad for DD. Told me tonight that the other kids do not want to play with her. She is not in sports like the other kids due to her history of seizures.
I know she is lonely and I just wish there is something I can do to make her feel better.

On a good note at least she has fun with the kids in her 4-H club. we also attend a class on croucheting and she gets along with a couple of younger girls who also attend.

That's great that she is involved in things that interest her! I am on a Crochet forum, Crochetville. There's some teenage girls on there too-and the people on there are very sweet and it's all about crocheting. My daughter played LAX but this year, she's doing some volunteer work with animal rescue instead.

I hope things get better for her. So many kids are mean these days, and their parents have no interest in teaching them proper behavior towards other. But on the bright side, your daughter will grow up to be a much stronger and well adjusted person who can deal with just about anything or anyone. It's amazing how much a person learns from hardships.

for you and her!

 

[herfrds]

Thanks Rosie!

I have always told DD that she should not make the mistakes I made years ago, by listening to others tell her who she should be friends with. She took my lesson to heart and was friends with one girl none of the others would be friends with, that is when the kids turned on her.
I know it hurts her hearing them talking about the sleepovers and parties they all go to together.

The nice part is hearing other 4-H parents talk about how much they adore her and how they are thrilled at her attitude in her projects.
We all still laugh over her "mutton busting" with her 4-H lamb when it jumped up and she lost her grip and she threw her arms around his neck and went for a ride around the show ring. Even the judge got a laugh out of it.

 

[herfrds]

Well that was NOT a fun trip.
Went down the river with DD's class for 2 days and 1 night. I was royally ticked off last night.

DD was trying to play with the girls at the camp ground. I had a massive headache so I was laying in our tent resting. So I heard everything!!!!!

DD went over to the tent where all the girls were all playing and asked if she could come in too.
The girls told her she was not invited, they did not want her around and to go away nobody liked her.
She walked away crying and one girl started saying some really cruel things, I stood up in our tent and told them I heard everything and they had better shut their mouths! I was furious!!!!

DD came to our tent and cried on my shoulder for quite awhile. Told her she did not need these kids as friends because they were not friends if they could turn on her so quickly.

Parents were there but would not do anything about them.

 

[herfrds]

Found out it is definitely one ring leader. Makes me mad because DD was always friendly with this girl when the others weren't. Told DD to stay away from this girl. Unfortunately she is in our 4-H group.

 

[MuckyPuppy]

Sorry to hear about the mean kids problems. As you have found out there is usually one main troublemaker. Kids will pick on anything that is different about another kid, we live in the UK and my eldest child (son) was bullied for having an American accent, or for standing out in anyway, like my second child (also a son) for being smart and a good kid.

 

[ballerina-chick]

Found who the kids are, turns out it was 2 boys that have been giving her a hard time. Her teacher came in the store last night and I told her what was said. She is going to address it on Monday. I found out who the kids were by a classmate who is nice to DD.
This classmates parents told me these kids parents don't care and won't do anything.

These were the boys who were saying earlier that DD had rabies. I told her to tell them they had head lice.

Some kids...