Mother-in-law learns lesson.

[cheeptrick]

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ME TOO!
My MIL started her calling daily after our first year of marriage almost to the day. It didn't stop for 10 years...

I notice others complain about their MIL's when there was only 1 son in the family...SIL's don't get it either!

My dh has the greatest in-laws in my parents ever...they stay out of our marriage...never demand me to make a CHOICE between my husband or THEM.

The movie Monster In Law mirrors my life! ONLY thing is that I don't fight like J Lo did...I IGNORE! Drives them batty!

 

[EweSheep]

Yeah I would have PUSHED her out!!!!!!!!!!!!

What a laugh!

 

[silkiechicken]

EweSheep: Your MIL sounds just like my uncle!!! AND this uncle lives in our house! I live at home with my parents and this no good uncle does nothing. He has never held a job and he's 56 or 57 now. Never had a GF and I am convinced is mentally insane. He keeps old electronics and pack rats just the same. He has filled our 2500sq feet, yes, two stores and 2500 square feet GARAGE top to bottom with newspaper and trash... literally trash, like his bathroom trash even!!! Then he was negligent and the garage caught on fire because he put a fricking heater too close to the garbage and left it on!!! It has been about 8 years and he still HAS NOT FIXED the garage even though my dad BOUGHT ALL the supplies to do so... they are now just rotting.

SO now he has started filling up the main house with garbage!!! Our living room is almost unusable and when his dad passed away, my grandpa, he filled my grandpa's room with trash!!! Our 4400 square foot home feels like it is just 1000sq feet!!! My mom says leave him alone and treat him like a family dog beause every time we try to clean up something he gets mad and brings MORE junk home!!! HE GOT MAD BECAUSE I RE STACKED THE WHOLE WOOD PILE!!!

He's into his second summer in re roofing the house. He piled up the old tiles from one portion of the roof on the ground ON MY STRAWBERRIES!!!! I threw the old tiles away by taking them to the dump and he got ticked and STOPED!!! Two summer and 1/8th of the roof is done. WHAT THE ****!!!!

Then he brags about his 2000 strawberry plants he had bought... and gets 0 strawberries... Because he did not care for them and black berries grew over them all... I bought blue berries from a farm, he buys blue berry plants, they are now dead in plastic containers because he just left them out back.

We don't have neighbors and he's not left the property in at least 10 years... He does not have a car, he does not drive, he is afraid of the public and if someone comes, will keep talking and not let them leave. I do not talk to him he does not talk to me. He is the most nosy ____ I have ever known in my life.

One day, when he can no longer walk, he will have no power, no voice and no companionship. I will make sure he can sit in a wheel chair and watch me throw away all his newspapers, magazines and junk. I will personally pay for the large trash bin and dawn a face mask and one by one put everything into the bin!!! I've already started saving up for this and it WILL happen.

I have no idea why he doesnt get kicked out or something... Sadily though... his name is on the partnership that owns the land we live on. My grandpa had set it up that way with all the kids names on the property because back in that time, Chinese Americans were not allowed to own land as a single individual. And this is what happens because of it. My dad tells me to sit like a vulture because one day it will only be my brother and I on the property's partnership if we can all keep paying the outrageous property taxes on it till then. That tax is more than people make in a year working full time in a min wage job... I don't know what I'd do without my dad. He has been and is putting everyone though school...even that ungrateful little brother of his... just to have to live the way he lives because he doesn't have the guts to stand up against his little brother!!! He's even putting me though school and pays for me to live on campus that is just 20 miles from home! (commute would be over an hour each way though)
Sheesh!!! I'm grateful I can be spoiled like I am but I would never treat my dad like my uncle treats him. My dad spoils everybody and he works all week at his main job and works Saturdays for just that bit extra... If it wasn't for the no good uncle being still alive, he could spend that little extra on himself instead!!! Or maybe in directly redoing the house... he dropped 10k on the roofing supplies and stuff to have it just sit around the house!

GRRR! Ok, I'll stop ranting before I get mad for the whole day about my useless uncle . He makes my life miserable and I WILL make sure he can NEVER be peaceful in how ever long the rest of it is. Ungrateful ____.


As for the OP's original post, that's great. But, how are the hens going to know that the eggs are food and not start making the mistake of eating their own raw eggs?

 

[Katy]

My mother-in-law passed away going on 6 years ago and there's not a day goes by that I don't miss her. She was a dear sweet woman who never treated me any differently than her own daughter. We didn't always agree and I know she thought I had too many pets...especially cats in my house, but she accepted that was part of who I am. Once we got her convinced that she should give up driving I was happy to take her where she needed to go....even tho she always felt like she was a burden by needing the help. She lived to almost 90 and I wish she was still here. My goal has always been to be the kind of mother in law that she was and from the amount of time all our grown kids and their spouses and their families spend here I must be doing ok at it. Makes me sad for those who don't have a person like her in their lives.

 

[Frozen Feathers]

I guess I have the dream of a MIL compared to some of these stories! She has always been great w/ DD and spoils her, but not with candy or junk, but she buys her tons of cloths and things she needs.

The things I do not care for that she does is complains to me about my BIL....and my BIL complains to me about her, lol. He's in Japan now, but when he was living with my in-laws, complain, complain, complain. She also says stupid things like, "aren't you afraid that the dog is going to bite Kendra?" or "I don't really care for tattoos, I don't understand why someone would want them"...knowing full well that I have them.

But the most annoying thing to me that she does is spends ridiculous amounts of money being "green". They are spending over 7G on a deck!! An ugly plastic deck! It probably cost more energy to recycle plastics then to use lumber and a heck of a lot cheaper.

Oh and she did cheat on my FIL, got a divorce, lived with the scumbag she cheated on FIL w/ for 2 years and then later remarried FIL. FIL is a big pushover! If my Dh ever did that to me...he'd be lucky if he were able to use his fingers to sign divorce papers...

 

[schmoo]

Whew I guess I'm lucky. My MIL isn't too bad, or it could be I just speak my mind with no regrets. Well I've been married 11 years and she used to call alot and everytime I'd talk to her she had some new problem. I guess she wanted someone to care. I guess it's better than the above posts though. Atleast she was'nt telling me all MY problems

I had no sympathy for her simply because when my DH was a child she stayed with an abusive alcoholic for all of my DH's childhood. He was exposed to more than any child should be. She had no reason to stay she was plenty smart, just lazy I guess. Then guess what? as soon as my DH turned 16 she left the abuser for another guy and moved out and left my DH there with his mean drunken dad. Thanks MOM. As if I'm gonna give a crap about her problems right?!

The last slick move she tried was on a camping trip this summer. She tells my DH she needs a pole barn built and wants him to do it. (thats what he does for a living) So he says, "well I can do it after work as a side job" she says, "well don't you have 2 more weeks vacation coming, I need it done right away"

THE NERVE. My DH works SO hard at work he is always sore and tired etc. He offers to come to work for her after working a 10 hour day and THATS not good enough. He just sat there like "uh, well" and this is where me speaking my mind comes in. I looked at her and said "are you nuts, do you have any idea how hard he works?" "There is NO WAY he's using his vacation for that!" I know he was relieved that I'm the one who said it so he did'nt have to be mean to the 'old bag. Sheesh. I didn't even bat an eyelash and then I asked if anyone was hungry for some smores

You just can't let 'em get to you. I agree on the caller ID too -saved me a million times!

 

[DuckLady]

I posted this in another thread here https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?pid=150851#p150851
and thought it appropo to this thread as well.


My hubby has a psych degree in additoon to his teaching one. And when I tell him his mother is a hystrionic psychopathic narcissistic paranoid obsessive compulsive OLD BAT, he asks where I got my psych degree.

I tell him from The Lacy Family Bat Cave U.

 

[SpottedCrow]

I can understand the cultural thing...I married into a Greek family, where they still speak it when things get heated...
which these days is often.
My inlaws are 87 and DH is 60. I'm just a kid compared to the lot of them. I'm 43.
I hardly ever call my MIL by her first name...it would be like calling my grandmother by her first name, it just wasn't done!
She grump and complains about how much pain she's in...she needs Novacaine to have her teeth cleaned. Goddess knows how she had 2 kids! She needs to one-up what ever you say.
I had pneumonia in both lungs. She had quadruple pneumonia...I asked her how many lungs did she think she had...
When I was in the car accident, she called and it took her all of 15 seconds for her to start in on how you're never right if you've ever hurt your back...20 minutes later I was ready to stick my head in the oven...
She has no idea what the heck I have chickens for, but she does like the eggs.
DH is overweight but healthy except for needing to have his hips replaced.
She complains about her cholesterol and how "I can't eat anything" then she gulps down crackers and youghurt. "I'm stuffed" after she's had like 2 whole noodles, but she's been mawing in the kitched while cooking.
I do love her, but if DH and I ever got divorced, I get custody of his sister.

 

[nccountrygirl]

I guess I had a good MIL. The day that DH and I got married she told me that she did not want me to marry her son ( I'm 10 yrs older than him, they said it would never last, we've been married almost 22 yrs), I told her tuff and we got married, after that she became the best MIL a women could hope for, my DH is the only son with 4 sisters and she doted on him. 11 yrs ago she was diagnosed with Melanoma and fought it bravely for 3 yrs. Oct 30 she will be gone 8 yrs. and I miss her very much

 

[EweSheep]

Good God, Silkiechicken, your uncle is BAAAAAAAD!

Jeez, such packrats! Even the darn electric knife that broke, they wanted to recycle THAT one too! My BIL said NO, and he threw it in the garbage because there is NO use of recycling and can get another one. That really made my hubby's mom and my FIL very nervous. I would not be surprised if they got it out of the garbage can when BIL is not looking. AND it would be nice if you can put your uncle in a small camp house and he can live in his pig sty and once he is gone, you can simply BURN it.

Yep it WILL be the day when I get the darn garbage bin out front of their house and dump EVERYTHING in it and haul it off. Hubby got a better idea...burn the house down and start from scratch!

They live in a BEAUTIFUL area, homes that priced in 100 to 200 thousand dollars and growing in sections in the area. Their house looked like a pig sty...trash, old tires, more "junk" and old magazines and yep, broken tools (ever heard of a broken wrench socket that can be repaired???..its a goner and can not be fixed). And on top of the house, it has never seen any paint, very little repairs and OLD carpet dated back in the 60's...remember those rust, avacado, mostly brown decor..UGH! And it had a house fire at one time and basement needed to be redone or taken out and redo. Talk about thousands of dollars. Its a wonder it is not a fire hazard!!! They ran on electric only, no propane and a shared well (thats a mistake!)

I feel sorry for those who have IL living with them....I dont think I could handle that! And Terrie, I love your sense of humor, maybe your hubby can figure out my hubbys mother's psycho mind and why she does things like that....insecurity????