my husband left me

[Charm1704]

Leopards do not change their spots....he'll be cheating on her in no time...or she'll be cheating on him! I've seen it happen over and over! Be thankful you've rid yourself of him. Neither of them have any morels! I went through this 15 years ago....(although it does hurt ) you can survive this and come out on top. I'll pray for you!~Charm1704

 

[TigerLilly]

I am so sorry to hear about ANYone going through this.

My 'words of wisdom' may seem harsh, but there is HEART and EXPERIENCE behind it:
1. Thank God that it happened now & that you DIDN'T have kids. Did I miss the part about how long you were married?
2. I liked the advice about scrubbing the bathroom floor on hands & knees--wish I'd known about that everytime my hearts been broken...
3. DO NOT give up your home & land--unless you absolutely cant afford it--it will be your refuge. I'm telling you now that if you do, you will regret it down the road. If it's a painful reminder of him, REDECORATE & start fresh so that it looks like a totally different place. Every woman needs to be able to stand on her own 2 feet, if for nothing other than to know that she CAN!
4. I know it's hard, but put on your big girl boots & deal with it. Start doing things you've always wanted to but hadn't gotten around to. Just keep your mind off of him as much as possible.
5. If you are absolutely, 100% positive you arent taking him back (ya gotta be strong for this one), gather up EVERYTHING that is HIM (anything he left behind, photos, etc) and have a nice bonfire!
Invite the girls over for a girls night, get some hot dogs & marshmellows & have a party! Heck, do what I did with one of mine...sell his stuff on ebay! Of course that was months after he'd been given numerous chances to come & get it...the cb radio alone got me $50! And yes, I can laugh now--but I wasnt when he emptied our joint account of all the money for the soon-to-be-due bills. Thank goodness I still had my own account.
Just know that we all sympathize with you, cause I'm sure we've all been there. It helps to have friends (on-line AND off) to help get you through it. One day, it WILL be ok & you WILL go through a day without crying.

 

[MamaRoo]

maybe not proactive, but it helped me to clean the toilet with his toothbrush.

 

[KYTinpusher]

Quote:
x500!

Though I would never wish to see anyone's marriage end, you are better off without him. Just remember, God never closes a door without opening a new and better one! My prayers go out to you.

 

[joedie]

Quote:

That's evil but good. Can they go together??

 

[finflwr]

That Sucks!

However I'm with TigerLilly: Perhaps you can find a way for your House & Land to help you keep Them? Lodgers, use of land for someone or similar? I have friends who use their spare room to provide temporary accomodation to foreign students, actors in town for plays etc.. Where there's a will there's a way..

He Has Issues, and he will find out later, when it's too late.

Best Wishes for your new Future

 

[texasgal]

Wow .. sorry.

"Men are rats
Men are fleas on rats
They're amoebas on fleas on rats"

Good for you for putting him out and seeing an attorney.

He'll soon find that fantasy turns into real life ...

some men

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

Yeh, I DO second the canceling credit cards and notifying them you are separated. I was trapped by the desire to get him help and my upbringing which said I should not divorce him just because he was "sick" (drug addict).

In the meantime, he purchased a car in both of our names and ran up all of the credit cards we shared. I, of course, became responsible for that debt. I had the care repossessed and dealt with the debt but ended up paying quite a bit of it.....

Divorce or legal separation so you're not responsible for his debt!

 

[xchairity_casex]

good they deserve eachother just let him know that once reality sets in with this other women youll be long gone and better for it!! you dont need his crap youll be able to find someone who appreciates you much much more! respects you and loves you more then he ever could! keep your chin up and remember its HIM whos looseing YOU NOT the other way around! your an amazing person who can do amazing things!

 

[airmechreed]

It sounds like his loss. Sorry that you have to go though this but everything happens for a reason and who knows what this will bring.