My mom is dying *She's gone now **update*

[NonnasBabies]

Just wanted to say my heart goes out to you!!

Hugs
Missi

 

[SarahFair]

I know how you feel. It hurts us to think well never hear them say 'I love you baby girl' or have a hug or give us encouraging words through our hard times.
Loosing them at such a young age (I was 20 she was 46) is very very hard. You feel like it isnt fair because you have so much time left on this earth with out them. Im facing a possible 60 years without my mother. In a way Im kind of jealous of people who get to walk with their mothers throughout most of their lives. My dads 49 and his mother is still kickin like a horse. '

I look it as if my mother has taught me everything she could have before she passed and I am only being selfish to think these things. Shes better now and with the family she really missed. You dont want to hold their spirits back from going home to family and friends that have already passed.

Whenever I want to feel her hug or hear her I love you I just think back to the times she did give them to me and its like shes there with me. Its a weird sensation.



BTW how old is your mother?

 

[Steve_of_sandspoultry]

We are so sorry, it's very helpful to have friends here on BYC that say such kind words.

Steve

 

[tonini3059]

Yeah it is so nice to hear everyones encouragement. I feel like I am out on my own here. I want to do everything to keep her going and my dad and brothers are saying NO. She started peeing some blood clots and has been in menopause for a few years and started to bleed again down there today. They said if it gets worse they can give har a transfusion, but my dad says no he also signed a DNR. I just am so torn here I know there is no chance she will get better the cancer is everywhere, but I just want to give her the chance. I don't care if something happens to her and I am here I will give her CPR and he will just have to deal with it.

 

[tonini3059]

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She is 53 will be 54 on 11/15, and I am 23. My grandmother on my dad's side is 83 and her mom lived to be 103, if she would have lived another month she would have been 104. My grandmother keeps saying she lived a good life and is ready to go, she is super active especially when it comes to the casinos, So I told her she is just going to have to hang on until she is her mothers age because she is like a second mom to me.

 

[Sissy]

Tononi I am keeping you and
your family in my prayers.
I know you will stay strong.
and understand when its time to let go.
Blessings to All of you.

 

[wegotchickens]

I know this is very hard for you.
Still keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[justmeandtheflock]

I am so sorry.

 

[tonini3059]

So I am seriously ready to kill my mom's side of the family. Like we do not have enough stress with everything that is going on the seriously have to add to it. My mom has always always always said No viewing, she wants to be cremated ashes dumped under the oak tree, she even said throw me in the furnace and dump out the ashes...well anyhow her side of the family is totally totally against her cremation. They don't believe in it and it is wrong and you must have a viewing for three days and put us through heck. My grandfather lives over an hour away from us on a mountain and he feels that my mom should be buried up there next to her mom. My brothers are all having a way harder time of dealing with this and I am and they constantly have to hear from my uncles how they disapprove of us following my mothers wishes. Funerals are for the living not for the dead. Like I said when my mom passes we will call everyone down so they can see her and say her goodbye. Then we are going to have pictures and a 2 hour get together then having the memorial so it will be tasteful. My brothers and I are going to by keepsake urns that you can put a little bit of the ashes in and I offered some to my grandfather and he was like no I don't believe in this and you need a viewing and just goes on and on, finally I got mad and hung up on him. Plus now I am hearing he and a few of my mom's brothers are not going to come to the service. I just really want to scream.

She is doing much worse she just stares and will not answer you when you talk to her. Her urine output has almost ceased she is not eating anything at all. I just have a bad gut feeling that it is going to be tonight or tomorrow. We don't need this added stress and I am about to break and cut them out forever.

 

[1stepcloser]

Continuing to pray for a peaceful passing. There will be many loved ones waiting to help her cross...she won't be alone. I think you are a wonderful daughter. She is lucky to have you!