My poor little boy......needing advise...

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Whatever you do, PLEASE don't take this advice!!!!!! I watched my neighbors when I lived in Alaska bury their 11 y/o daughter because she hanged herself....a result of constant school bullying. Be your child's advocate!!! He needs you!
 
My sons school has a zero tolerance policy on bullying also, but it's hard to stop a kid from going to my son and saying, "look, he's wearing pink shoes! HAHAHA!". There is no way to be with our kids 24/7. Even if I could be I wouldn't want to shelter my son. I need to find a way to help him though.
 
I would be on the phone constantly to that school or the district office to get something done about this. There's nothing worse to a child than being bullied. It will make them physically sick.
 
MY God,

Your poor Baby, I would be right on the phone to the school and be in their face until something was done. This is intolerable, and should not be happening.

Just one point... and an important one that you can take care of at home.

Your son should be proud of the colour of his skin. he has a wonderful heritage that goes with it, and should not let anyone make him feel less than he is.

This kind of thing breaks my heart, it can stay with a child for life.

My own son is mixed race, and I will not apologise if that term is not politically ok, he is mixed, I am mixed too but it doesn;t show. My parents were welsh and Irish with a little bit of Asian Indian, my son is mixed with african, so for him it does show, but we did a project together when he was young to find all the positives for both of us of our heritage..s, lol... all of them. here are not many of us around who are not mixed up somewhere down the line.


Huge hug for you and for a little man who will be the best,

Bless him,

Jena.
 
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Whatever you do, PLEASE don't take this advice!!!!!! I watched my neighbors when I lived in Alaska bury their 11 y/o daughter because she hanged herself....a result of constant school bullying. Be your child's advocate!!! He needs you!

I AGREE 10000% with luvmychicks
dont take a "do nothing" approach..... not in today's world...

ETA: Especially when it comes to boys - too many boys are taught they need to "toughen up - dont cry - its not manly"
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yeah okay..whatEVER! My son is taught its okay to do all of those things and then some!

Be his advocate and teach him that its okay to do all those things and more...and its okay to play with barbies too!
 
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Do nothing isn't the right approach, but children do need to learn how to deal with the bullies they'll meet in life - I know, I was bullied terribly when I was younger. Could my parents have intervened? I dunno. I don't think it would have helped, other than they could have reinforced my own feelings of self-worth, something they didn't seem capable of doing. Make sure your son knows he's valuable, he's loved and wanted, no matter what the rest of the world may be telling him right now. Poor little guy.

This sounds as though it's gone past the 'let them work it out' stage. The school should definitely be doing more to stop this. And you, Mom, need to step up to the plate and make them do what they need to do. No one else is going to do it for you. Figure it out, get to that school, be an active advocate for your son. I don't know why the courts are involved in your life, but you may be able to get someone in the court system to help you with the school, if they are unresponsive.

ETA I do think children need to be taught to take care of themselves - the world isn't going to coddle them when they get out into the real one, and too many kids nowadays are raised to think the world revolves around them, it's a far fall when the cold, wet hand of reality hits them.
 
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I just wish my kids went to school with your little boy.
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I have a 7 y/o too and my three boys have spent the entire time they were in school taking up for the kids who are being bullied. They go to them and have them come play with them.....take them under their wing. Yes to what HennysMom said.....don't be afraid you will make your boys soft.....soft is not a bad thing. My 7 y/o still sleeps with a baby doll (she is a girl and wears pink, too). My husband thinks it is fine, too, BTW. 7 y/o is far too young for many kids to be able to emotionally handle bullying. I would work on getting your sister to take charge of the situation, too, since she is at the school every day and can see first hand what is happpening.
 
I just called the school and spoke to the principal and she said she would go look in the computer if he's been getting breakfast. She said she'd keep an eye out for him at lunch for the next few days to see if he's eating and will call me in a few days.
 
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did your son tell you why he wasnt eating specifically other than he was getting picked on and did he tell you by who? Just telling the principal "oh can you check and see if he got breakfast / is he eating..." doesnt seem like enough - they need the entire background story...including a meeting with the teacher, privately. Perhaps your son would benefit with a meeting with the school counselor a few times a week to help him deal with things. Thats what they're there for after all. Again, we dont know your background or situation - and we dont need to, but there must be more to the story other than he just doesnt want to eat in front of the other kids. That just breaks my heart
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kids need to eat - if your son is sneaking food into his room, thats a huge red flag for you Mom. gentle
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