My poor little boy......needing advise...

[BayCityBabe]

Please call the school, yes. Bullying is really harmful. I homeschool DD because she was bullied and because her educational needs were not met. She is a different kid (now) because she is not being torn down on a daily basis. Your kid needs to feel safe. It is a basic need.
Also, you might just have to make time to feed him breakfast at home. At least until things get straightened out at school. Haul the whole family out of bed a half hour earlier and scramble up some eggs. It'll be good for your child's body and his emotional health.

 

[Bammony]

He has been meeting with the counselor for a while now about being picked on. He holds alot inside and doesn't share how he's feeling very much. I have to kinda read between the lines. I didn't have time to talk with him alot before the bus came, but I'll be trying after he gets home.

I personally left public school and began homeschool myself when I was 15 because of bullies. I wasn't bullied myself but I was the one that would try to befriend the kids that were picked on and it started to get to me. I hated seeing kids beat up the point of their blood being splattered on the lockers and floor because they're family didn't have enough money to buy them name brand clothes. The day I walked down the hall and had to step over blood was the last day I went to a public school. I went home that day and told my mom that I would never go to public school again. I'm not doggin on public schools be any means, but.....it was the best choice for me to be homeschooled. I homeschooled my kids for 3 yrs and last year decided that they needed to be in public school because I want them to have a firm grip on reality and how the world works by the time they're adults. Adults have to deal with "bullies" also, usually daily. It just breaks my heart, like it did when I was in school, to see people treat others this way. I understand that I love and care for my kids more than anyone else ever will, but it's not only my kids this is being done to. Ok, I'll stop my rant. Thanks for ur opinions. Please keep them comin!

 

[Toast n Jelly]

It's simple..The Bullies Need To Stop and the only way is for the employees at the school to stop it.

My daughter was faced with that problem and fortunately she is a work at home Mom so what she did was volunteer for library duties once a week. That put her in a position to get to know the principal, teachers and employees.

She got to see for herself who the bullies were and how they were treating her daughter and the other children. I have to say that I was very proud of her as she went after the bullies and the school system and was unrelenting in her goal to stop the bullies.
You just have to be there to see for yourself and to try and stop them, if you can take the time to do it please try. If more parents get involved it could change!

 

[Julie08]

This breaks my heart its so sad. If he is mature enough do what he wants you to do. If he asks you to let him handle it for now then let him if he wants your help then give it. My son was getting pushed in lockers and other such bullying I contacted the councilor at school and she taught him skills to deal with the bullies what to say etc I have to admit when she told me I was very skeptical but it did work for him. I also told him if someone tried to shove him in a locker again he was allowed what he needed to do to not let that happen. He said "really? I thought I would get in trouble for that" I said absolutely not you get in any trouble for that you tell them to call ME immediately and I would deal with it. I'm sorry for your pain its an awful thing for you and your son to have to go through.

 

[chickens4jojo]

Poor little guy.

Do you know which kids are doing this? Perhaps you could find their parents and call them to let them know what is going on & you would appreciate their help in stopping this. This would bring it out in the open. You could do it in a nice way where you are asking for their help & suggest that you know it could be resolved with their help.

Although with the race issue, you may be dealing with the very people who taught these kids the wrong way.

But some parents may be very, very happy to know what is going on and will want correct their kids from doing such mean things as they may not know about it themselves. And hopefully, they will apologize....

And as for red shoes? They are just plain cool! My child had Rainbow Converse shoes! Those other kids are may be not only mean spirited, but jealous??

Its hard to learn in the atmosphere your child finds himself in. I, like you, would definitely do something.

 

[Bammony]

I'm not sure which kid/s are doing it but I will find out. I'm not angry about it, I just want to help my little man.

 

[FrontPorchIndiana]

I homeschool because of this issue. Best decision I've ever made.

 

[mamaKate]

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This is excellent advice. Make sure the teacher and administrators are just as miserable as your son until this is resolved. If they won't help, cosider changing schools or home school. Serious bullying can cause permanent harm.

 

[Julie08]

You also have to be careful not to make it worse.

 

[Bec]

You definitely need to keep going on this and not give up until he is ok at school! Just because they look IN the computer and it shows he bought breakfast and lunch does not mean he is eating it. Don;t let them tell you there is nothing more they can do, because there is. That poor little boy...

My son is just not a big eater, never has been. At lunch time I was packing his lunch everyday and he would come home with most of his lunch and he was very hungry asking for snacks when he got home. I had asked his teacher just to keep an eye on him at lunch and it turns out he was "sharing" with the kids that were buying lunch. The teacher had no problem taking a walk around while everyone was eating just to check and see what he was eating.
When I read this it had my eyes filled up with tears because I could not imagine going through this with my 7yo son. He was never bullied, but has a very sensitive gag reflex and would throw up when he would smell the food in the cafeteria, therefore he couldn't eat in the cafeteria with everyone else. His school allowed him to eat in the office everyday for almost the whole year of Kindergarten. He had a Dr's note in the nurses office so they would stop sending him home everyday and they came up with that solution. He had the same problem with the bathroom and bus smells. Now that he is in 2nd grade he is just fine and his teacher knows what he can handle and what he can't.

There IS something more they can do. In no way is that fair for your son to have to go to school and be so afraid. School is the other place besides home that your child should feel safe, and that isn't the case here. PLEASE keep on them until something is done. Call a million times a day to have them check on him if you have to.