My poor little boy......needing advise...

[Black Feather]

This is a very very hard situation to deal with.

While you can not do a whole lot from home about the bully, you can do a little on the home front. Make sure you child gets a good breakfast in the morning. You may have to get up a little earlier to make sure he gets it, but it will make a world of difference. This may be harsh but "I don't have time" is not acceptable. Children that are hungry do not concentrate on their work and slip in their grades.

I was bullied mercilessly when I went through school and the worst thing you can do is allow the school to make excuses for not taking action. If they will not step up tell them that you will go to the police and see what they can do. In my area the police have an anti bullying program.

It does not sounds like your son is the problem, so see what you can do about the bullies themselves. Get rid of the bully, get rid of the problem. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Make a lot of noise and get this dealt with. Nothing worth doing is ever easy, but whatever you do, don't do nothing.

UC

 

[PotterWatch]

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I am right there with you on that one. My oldest son was a child I didn't even know when we pulled him out of school because of bullying. It has taken about 1.5yrs, but he is finally back to the boy he was before all the bullying. I think 7 is just too young to be able to really deal with being bullied. I agree with all the others who have said, you need to sit down and have a talk with your child to find out exactly what he feels is going on (sometimes a child sees threats where adults do not), and then schedule a conference with his teacher and if possible a school counselor. I think to do nothing would be a huge mistake.

 

[cmcgoun]

I would do something about it, kids are more cruel now. I am in 9th grade this year and my friend in who is in 8th grade this year has been bullied all his life and he went into the bathroom, and was attacked by three kids. He was left for dead in the bathroom for 1 hour, until someone found him. (he was beaten up a little after the bell rang) He was in the hospital for a week, and is scared to death now. Do something before it gets out of hand, dont let it continue!

 

[Bammony]

Thank you so much for all your help and support. I'm going to be scheduling a meeting for sure and will be trying to help out in my sons class at least once a week if not more. He asked me a few days ago to homeschool him again and it just broke my heart.

 

[buckeye lady]

Take a look at this web site-

http://www.safechild.org/bullies.htm

I am sorry this is happening to your child.

 

[luvmychicknkids]

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This gave me chills.

My oldest son is 11 and told me recently a classmate was expelled for pulling a knife on someone and it appears drugs may have been involved, too. 11 years old!!!!!!! The single most important thing we can do is get to know our kids....talk to them every single day, alone!!!! Make sure they are comfortable telling you everything and then be prepared to fight for them or with them when needed. Good luck.

 

[debilorrah]

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That sounds EXACTLY like what happened to a child at my step son's school. My ss went to the restroom shortly before the bell and found a kid unconcious on the floor of a stall stuffed behind a toilet, bleeding. He is still in the hospital - that just happened on Tuesday.

My son was bullied too and the school wouldn't do a darned thing about it. I pulled him out. GET THIS! Some kids took my sons shoes and threw them on the roof, and the school wouldn't get them down. This was 4 years ago - yestersay I got a bill in the mail from the school for $10.76 for a missing textbook. I sent them back a bill for $65 for vans shoes STILL on their roof.

 

[seismic wonder2]

Do something NOW!
I know what your boy is going through, been there. I was "that kid".
It stopped for me in the 6th grade. I was picked constantly by "the football jock". Every day he would wait for me as soon as I got off the bus and it wouldn't stop until I got on the bus to go home. One day he punched me in the back of the head in English class. The next thing I remember I was in the floor of the office being held down by my dad, the football coach, and another male teacher.
To this day I don't remember anything from the missing time but the report said I stood up ripped the desk apart and began beating the kid in the head with it. The teacher tried to stop me and I turned on her then tore the room apart.
Fortuanately, only him, a few teachers and one other kid got hurt. He got a few days in hospital and a broken arm, I got three months in "alternative school", counseling, and freedom from being bullied.
I didn't get any more than that because his parents knew and thought it was funny, the school knew and did nothing, my parents knew and thought I should grow out of it, and no one did anything to help.
I lived every day in fear, pain, and hatred for 6 years and for 1 hour and 20 minutes I faught back. I still feel bad innocent bystanders got hurt.
Don't let your kid get picked on. EVER.

You have a local newspaper, send them every detail and how the school is doing nothing to help. GO PUBLIC, GET HELP ASAP.

 

[Bammony]

So sorry that happened to you SW2. I'll be doing all I can think of to help him.

 

[seismic wonder2]

Don't be sorry for me, past is past. Use my information as incentive to get the problem fixed. If the school won't do it, Go to the papers. School superintendants are still ellected. If the papers print the school has bully problems and they do nothing about it the Super will HAVE to fix it.

Go to the school and pitch a fit. Get people fired. Just get it stopped.