My poor little boy......needing advise...

[Dixiedoodle]

If it were me, I would call the office and tell them about it and ask them to handle it, let them know that if it doesn't stop you will go to the county Superintendent.... If It continues, call the Superintendent of schools in your county. Tell them what's happening, who you spoke to and DEMAND that they take care of it or you will go to the State superintendent... and do it!!! Good luck. I hope that your sister will be able to help. I am sorry for your son's pain and I must admit-I would be raisin' cane even if it weren't my child. I hate a bully, I will not stand and let any child be hurt/made fun of/ bullied....Dixie

 

[Mahonri]

Bammony,

If I were you, this is what I would do:

Find out exactly who is bullying your boy. Find out exactly what they have done and when they have done it and write it down. Find out if there are any other kids who have witnessed the bullying behavior by the ones your son names. Get recordings if need be. Find out if any other kids are being bullied by the same bullies. Enlist their parents.

Drive down to the police station in Price and put out a restraining order on every single child that has bullied your son.
Until the parents and the children come before a judge, those kids won't be allowed back into school.

It's time to take matters into the hands of the law, and I would threaten the principle with a law suit if she didn't enforce the restraining orders.

I wish you had taken a picture of your child with the raw yam!

I'd also find a civil liberties lawyer... and I doubt you'd find one in Price but I'll bet you could find one in Spanish Fork or Provo. Put the screws to the school district.

I only wish I had done this with my eldest son when he was in 6th grade.

 

[English Chick]

This is very very unaceptable. I am not a violent person, but when my daughter (then 11 yrs) was being bullied at High School by a "gang" of girls within the school, I took it up with the Headmaster....he replied stuffilly "we do not have any bullying at this school" I told him he did and that my child did not want to go to school anymore and it was a "battle" to get her there, I told him quite emphatically that if he was not prepared to accept that bullying was going on and DO something about it then I would!

It continued........So I took up the mantle of "Avenger" to protect my daughter, one by one and on their own I confronted them! I told them that if they touched my daughter, spat or where nasty wording her one more time, then I would do far far worse to them, but I would do it alone when they where alone and that there would be no witnesses to what I was prepared to do.......

Each one of them shook with fear! I asked them if they where frightened...yes....good says I, because that is how my daughter feels every day. You touch her ever again and believe that I will beat the living daylights out of you and suffer the consequences the Police might throw at me.

Therefore seeing as you now know what fear is....tell your parents what I have said and have them call me......

I never received a phone call and the bullying stopped immediately..... But rest assured I was prepared to beat the darn living daylights out of them at that time...so glad I did not have too.

Bullies like to intimtidate but usually they are cowards and do not like to be confronted, especially when they are alone. I told the Headmaster that I had sorted the situation out - he was the bigger coward...I believe to this day that he himself was fearful of this particular gang!

It worked for me...but I am not saying it will work for you. Do you know who these bullies are?......if you do tell their parents politely and see if that works. Other than that I do agree with Mahonri and his wisdom.....but you do need to act quickly.

 

[Verboten]

Are you having any other parenting issues with your child? - you mentioned court proceedings in post #5 which seemed very unusual to me. This could be another huge source of stress for a child. I know that when I was a very young I could say that one thing was bothering me when it was really another that my parents might not want to hear.

Take a long walk in the park with him and try to get to the bottom of this quick.
Best of luck to you.

 

[Bammony]

I was taken to court because my son missed 9 days of school last year. That's it! My daughter that is in the same grade missed 13 and nothing was said about it. So because he missed nine days out of the entire year,(5 of which were because I had emergency surgery last spring and my kids stayed with family), he has to be to school on time everyday this year or have a doctors note. They said to send him to school and let the school decide if he's too sick to be there. One day I got a call from the school saying my son had thrown up all over the office and the teacher herself. I just laughed and laughed. I was told that I couldn't homeschool my child the whole year either.

I spoke to my son yesterday when he got home and he said that his counselor told him if he hits anyone again he'll be suspended. I asked him why he's hitting and he said because kids are hitting him, (I have always taught my kids to fight back if they are hit). I asked if the girl that hit him got in trouble and he said no, because she wasn't "caught" doing the hitting. So, my son is defending himself and HE is the one that's getting in trouble???? I think not! I'll be getting with the school next week for a meeting.

 

[HennysMom]

You cannot be told you cannot homeschool your children - its against the law. If you are certified and/or can get certification to homeschool - you are ALLOWED to homeschool and no one can stop you. I dont understand this because you said you homeschooled before - were you not following the rules for homeschooling? Is that why they said no now?

If you kept your son out of school without reason, then yes, the school had legal rights to do what they did. I can understand you having surgery, but you have a legal obligation to have your son attend school, either through homeschooling or have someone else get him there. A doctors note is the only excused absense, short of a funeral and/or court. Here it is 9 days as well and if after 9 days are missed, regardless of excused abscenses or not - you must go in front of the School Board and explain - or your child fails the grade. I think its that way everywhere now a days.

Children shouldnt be hitting each other - and while that girl had no right to hit your son, your son shouldnt be hitting a girl - ever. What does that teach him in the long run? Too many kids are learning to use their fists instead of their words - thats the problem. I do believe in standing up for yourself, absolutely - but at 7 years old I think its taking it a bit far to hit - on either side. Sit down and talk about things.... if later on in school (middle /high) some one keeps it up and after repeatedly picking and it doesnt stop and throws the first punch - then... you hit back and only as a last resort. That is how my kids were taught and thankfully, have never had to resort to that and they are 10 and 18. I dont condone violence, but... sometimes its necessary when every other means fails and you are against the wall. Your son is by no means against a wall however I dont believe.

This school system sounds like its in trouble from the get go. Teachers that refuse to do anything, a principal that refuses to do anything...... I dont know - maybe its just me that views it like that, but - SOMEONE has to advocate and it doesnt sound like the school cares that much - its more like "get 'em in - get 'em out" type of situation. Thats awful - its elementary school - I can only imagine whate middle and high school has in store.

I'm so sorry you and your family has to endure this...

 

[AhBee01]

That is crazy about him missing school. If he is sick, send him and they will decide? That is crazy. What if they feel he is sick, and you can't come back for him are they going to take care of him?
I know there is no winning with some school systems, my cousin spent 10 days in jail, because her kids missed to much school, most of the time, she thought they were there, and they skipped out. It was bad.
I hope everything gets better. I would get him up early and try to get him to eat something.
My kid won't eat in the morning, he can't eat right away. So I'm glad they do that snack!
Brenda

 

[Mahonri]

Unfortunately defending oneself is a thing of the past with school kids.

He gets touched, he immediately needs to report it to the nearest adult as LOUDLY as he can.

 

[luvmychicknkids]

spoke to my son yesterday when he got home and he said that his counselor told him if he hits anyone again he'll be suspended. I asked him why he's hitting and he said because kids are hitting him, (I have always taught my kids to fight back if they are hit). I asked if the girl that hit him got in trouble and he said no, because she wasn't "caught" doing the hitting. So, my son is defending himself and HE is the one that's getting in trouble???? I think not! I'll be getting with the school next week for a meeting.

I am thinking this may be a HUGE part of the problem. It is a girl. While my boys are well liked by almost all the kids in school, there is one little girl who has hated my 8 y/o since kindergarten. She has hit him and kicked him tied him to the merry go round so badly they had to cut him loose, shoved him out of swings, bit him and spit on him. I started with him...finding out why, etc. It was obvious he was not the problem. I went to the teacher several times and the most she ever did was take 5 minutes of this child's recess stating "but she is a tiny little blonde girl". Next the principal....."oh dear" is all I heard. A few days later she attacked another little boy and bit him, ripped large pieces of his skin out with her fingernails and kicked him until his legs were black and blue. She got 1 day ISS for that. Finally, at recess one day she knocked my son down and started kicking him in the ribs with cowboy boots. Teachers were present and did not stop it. I thought his ribs were broken, thankfully they were not. It was reported when he was examined but nothing ever happened from that, either. So, I went to the child. I sat her down at their christmas party, smiled really sweet and said "sweetie, the next time you touch Abraham in any way I am calling the police. They are going to come to your house and arrest your mommy and daddy and take you and your little brother to an orphanage and you will stay there. If you don't believe me then go home and tell your mom and she can call me and I will tell her the same thing" She has not touched my child since.

They do NOT care if girls beat up boys. PERIOD!​

 

[purr]

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this is what I was going to say, find out the name of the kid or kids who are doing the bullying and accidentally run into parents and say the word lawyer.