mom'sfolly :
I'm going to suggest something. It will sound strange, but I think it might give you the perspective you need.
You rarely see him, you text him, and never talk...so, break up with him mentally. In your head, move him to the friend category. Any interaction with him, consider him just another friend. But, DON"T TELL HIM. Just make a mental break. See if your perspective on him changes. Is he a friend you would continue to spend time with? Is he someone you would be attracted to? Let yourself be open to other encounters. If someone asks you out, for a casual date, or even or a more formal date, go. This guy isn't going to notice. He's not going to notice that you are unavailable. If you want to go out with friends, go dancing, go to a movie, do it. You can invite him if you want, but if he doesn't want to go, go yourself.
This man is so into himself, he's not even going to notice the mental break...but you will. This will be very freeing. Do not lock yourself into a life with a killjoy.
I guess I would break up with him before going on a date with anyone else. I had an old boyfriend see other people while we were going out, it really hurt when I found out he did that without being honest with me.
I'm going to suggest something. It will sound strange, but I think it might give you the perspective you need.
You rarely see him, you text him, and never talk...so, break up with him mentally. In your head, move him to the friend category. Any interaction with him, consider him just another friend. But, DON"T TELL HIM. Just make a mental break. See if your perspective on him changes. Is he a friend you would continue to spend time with? Is he someone you would be attracted to? Let yourself be open to other encounters. If someone asks you out, for a casual date, or even or a more formal date, go. This guy isn't going to notice. He's not going to notice that you are unavailable. If you want to go out with friends, go dancing, go to a movie, do it. You can invite him if you want, but if he doesn't want to go, go yourself.
This man is so into himself, he's not even going to notice the mental break...but you will. This will be very freeing. Do not lock yourself into a life with a killjoy.
I guess I would break up with him before going on a date with anyone else. I had an old boyfriend see other people while we were going out, it really hurt when I found out he did that without being honest with me.