Need help w/teenager ! UPDATE! Pg 4 Thank You!!!!

[redhen]

what about the national guard? do they accept GEDs?

 

[hennypenny9]

Hi, just wanted to say that you're awesome for taking him in! I have four step-brothers, each lived with their mom until they couldn't stand her drinking/drug problems anymore. So we had a 15-16 year old come to live with us every other year for four years. They all turned out great (with one exception) and are grateful we offered them a place to go.

That being said, is there a community college near you? Some offer high school completion courses. And he shouldn't feel bad about it because there will be plenty of older people in those classes. That's what a friend of mine did. She failed a few classes, so they sent her off to CC to finish HS.

 

[gpamela3499]

The military recruiters are aggressive that is their job just like basketball and football recruiters are for the colleges. Some may make statements that do not reflect military interest.

I repeat in case it was missed, the military men in my family are my heros. The military is supposed to be for the patriotic person to defend his or her nation and family. It really should not be for money and education. The money paid to GI's and their families is from us the taxpayer in reward for their sacrifice and service to pur nation.

Most community colleges offer classes that can be used toward a high school diploma or an AA as needed.

Your nephew sounds like a fine young man that might be a benefit to the military. If he has already had a hard time it might be better that he look at the military and some alternatives even online classes.

 

[conny63malies]

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not sure , cant ask my DH now he is asleep. But as i said the higher he scores when the army tests him the more jobs are open to him. AS an example a textile specalist does not need the same qualifications as a soldier who works on helicopters or flies drones.Did he take the ASVAB yet?

 

[Up-the-Creek]

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not sure , cant ask my DH now he is asleep. But as i said the higher he scores when the army tests him the more jobs are open to him. AS an example a textile specalist does not need the same qualifications as a soldier who works on helicopters or flies drones.Did he take the ASVAB yet?

No he hasn't taken the ASVAB test yet,he is only 16 at this time. He has only been here a month and we are trying to get a plan together for him. He has had no direction and no goals, so we are concentrating on that. I recieved a letter from his Algebra teacher today that he has a 16 in his class! So here we are,..Monday I guess we are going to school. I want him to finish high school and get his diploma, but he can't if he keeps failing classes. The school isnt much help as I stated before. They more or less want to push him on out instead of through. He has been in trouble at school for fighting and other things and they just have basically threw up their hands with him. Of course his mother did not even try to help him in anyway. It is all just a mess.

 

[debakadeb]

If there is an alternative high school in your area, I would go talk with them. While many of the students are there because of behavior difficulites, many others are there simply because they were not a good fit for where they are currently. The ages vary, the classes are typically small, and the teachers are accepting. And, while many of them do not go to college, some do and do it very well. What he would find there are a lot of kids who have simply had a hard life -- which he would probably relate to.

Good luck. There is no easy answer.

 

[new2chix]

Does he have to go back to the same high school he was at before you took custody of him? A change of school, a conference with his guidance counselor before he begins, even an evaluation for special services (many tests are based on how far behind a student is in core subjects ) could all be helpful to him if you can get him to focus on a long range plan. Try to get him to plan his goals out 10 to 20 years, then work his plan backwards to see what he needs to do to get there (when he's 35, it isn't going to be important how old he was when he graduated).

 

[conny63malies]

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not sure , cant ask my DH now he is asleep. But as i said the higher he scores when the army tests him the more jobs are open to him. AS an example a textile specalist does not need the same qualifications as a soldier who works on helicopters or flies drones.Did he take the ASVAB yet?

No he hasn't taken the ASVAB test yet,he is only 16 at this time. He has only been here a month and we are trying to get a plan together for him. He has had no direction and no goals, so we are concentrating on that. I recieved a letter from his Algebra teacher today that he has a 16 in his class! So here we are,..Monday I guess we are going to school. I want him to finish high school and get his diploma, but he can't if he keeps failing classes. The school isnt much help as I stated before. They more or less want to push him on out instead of through. He has been in trouble at school for fighting and other things and they just have basically threw up their hands with him. Of course his mother did not even try to help him in anyway. It is all just a mess.

You know what when my DH was his age the military and school couldnt be further from his mind. All he cared about were girls,cars and heavy metal(child of the 80s)
He quit HS as a senior and soon after married his back then 16 year old GF (now ex) they had three kids .... marriage failed yada yada so there he was with no goal in life. He was able to join as a 19D a Cav Scout. All it was supposed to be was a three year enlistment to get his life together. It turned into a career. He is in now foralmost 13years, just a month shy. He has a college education and morks on a masters in business something...administration i think.
He came from a bad family situation too. Never met his birthfather, was told by his birth mother that he was a product of rape!!!!
and when his mom was 26 she married a 18 year old kid. He was 5 back then and his older half brother was 11month older. Both adults were high on MJ al the time or drunk . One day the both passed out and left two small boys playing with matches.....
my DH was send to is uncle and his older B to a boys rnch after that. His uncle loved him until he got a wife who hated my DH so he was send back home...... you get it but in the end he turned into a good citizen eventhough he had a aweful past.

 

[Linda in San Diego]

Locally we have a jr college that actually has a high school program. The students, many older chronologically than their school peers, complete the last two years of high school in a jr college setting. This is ideal for the "older" high school student. High school credit and college credits combined. They are in a totally adult setting and the top of the hill thing goes away.

Blessings on you and yours. You have taken on a challenge with love and care. Stand strong, it sounds like he a good guy and he will bloom with the right water, light, and use of shears.

 

[ranchhand]

My nephew flunked out of high school, got in trouble, and was left with the choice between jail or military service.
He wisely chose to get his GED- and is now a proud, mature member of the U.S. Coast Guard, having been in service 5 years now.


I'm proud of you , C. !