First and foremost, I want to say "Thank you" for all the nice thoughts and sentiments regarding Mom. We're not through it yet as we have her memorial services on April 13th...and judging by what a lifelong fixture she was in her hometown and all the stuff she was involved in it will probably be a huge gathering.
Since the 20th I've been dealing with all things funereal and estate paperwork. Mom, it turns out, was not a tidy bookkeeper and it has been a bit of a forensice family docs hunt. I know we all do not like to think about the inevitable, but I beg you PLEASE get your affairs in order and let your kids or trustees know where the vitals are kept. You can never be too efficient in this department. Luckily, I had a heads up on her passing and got the burial arrangements done beforehand, but the aftermath has been a tidal wave of bureaucracy...and there's nothing worse than trying to find something when you're bawling away. Mom before she died apologized for the mess she was leaving me; I just thought she was talking about clutter. Silly me.