**NEW QUESTION PG. 12** Autism: Yes, you may ask my opinion!

[Jena]

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Hi I saw your posts on the thread and I did answer at one time. I also noticed that you seemed to be ignored. I do apologise becaue I was going to come back to you when it was closed.

They were also choosing to ignore my comments after a while but I expected that as I am not American. I have felt like that on many threads before.

I will I fact check back there as you made a very valid point in the one posting I know it stuck in my mind.

 

[ursusarctosana]

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Hi I saw your posts on the thread and I did answer at one time. I also noticed that you seemed to be ignored. I do apologise becaue I was going to come back to you when it was closed.

They were also choosing to ignore my comments after a while but I expected that as I am not American. I have felt like that on many threads before.

I will I fact check back there as you made a very valid point in the one posting I know it stuck in my mind.

Hello Jena,

It's not so much that I want a response, now, from my ideas posted on that thread, but that I want some insight as to why there was not an exchange.

 

[ursusarctosana]

Basically I'm interested in an analogy of the situation from other people's perspectives, from what other people make of the situation. It is a really open-ended question I'm asking here so I am open to all opinions and takes on the matter. An inquiry, so-to-speak.

 

[Jena]

I think things on that thread were becoming a lot personal and I think they were blind to any comments either of us made.

I really noticed that they were just quoting back to each other and it was getting quite nasty.

I put a few lol.... comments in my replies as I realised I was wasting my time.

 

[ursusarctosana]

From what you are saying about the exchange amongst others I am probably oblivious to the fact that the heated argument is personal and just between those members. Perhaps this is because they recognize each other as persons who are passionate about their feelings and I see it as an information exchange. I think this is where people can become blind to new information sometimes. They shut out information because they are blinded by their emotions.

I don't know, but it's interesting to me all the same and it helps me to analyze situations in order to get a better understanding of the aspects of communication most people comprehend intuitively.

 

[Jena]

yes you are right.

I have been watching that thread for some time but did not post as I felt it is not really my issue, but I was intereted in how they felt about the prospect of a change to the system.

Then I found today that they were making all kinds of comments about the socialist UK. So I just explained about the system here. I learned a lot really, and then some new people joined in who obviously feel very strongly about things. Some were from Canada, and it began to get very personal.

So I replied to some comments but then I realised I was being shut out so I signed off. Then it was closed.

So I agree that it became emotional. Then they lost a very good discussion. It was interesting to hear their ideas, and they also made me think as well.

I have to qualify: there were a number of people on the thread that were making very good comments from both Canada and the US, and then there was a discussion on gun laws and the constitution and then there were some very negative comments made it was not in relation to nations. I do not want to appear to say it was American vs Canadian. it was pro healthcare and anti.

 

[AngieChick]

People many times tend to take in only information that reiterates what they already believe to be true. This limits the ability to take in new information and challenge their own beliefs, thus making many sided debates very challenging to say the least.

On that particular thread, there were some people citing beliefs about the feelings of citizens of other nations and then ignoring what was said by one member from there because it didn't agree with what their preconceived notions were. I think this is just part of human nature, and to be expected.

There is an interesting RadioLab exploring this issue. The human brain is very interesting, in part because of its chaotic nature.

 

[Wifezilla]

I agree with what you all just said. It did become personal. They had no intention of letting in ideas that didn't fit with their own. While not useful in the context of solving that particular issue, I did gain insights in to the inner workings of some of the people involved.

 

[Jena]

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lol... thank you Angie,

that will help me outa lot anyway. I think my brain goes on holiday sometime.

You are right though, there were some hardened ideas there. But we all keep to where we feel safe sometimes, and it is always tricky to challenge people's beliefs.

This proposed change must be very hard to come to terms with in some ways.

 

[ursusarctosana]

So, perhaps, I can view my perspective thinking as an asset. It is when people start "flaming" (is that what it's called?) or what I know as using ad hominems that confuses me. That's when my emotions start to interfere with my thinking. Not so much now that I've got some of it "figured out" intellectually, but when I was younger if someone started calling me names I became really confused.

As long as the discussion remains intellectual and new ideas are pressed forward, then I can make sense of the situation. I see. This is a new insight for me. This is why I posted this question. It's a learning experience and it's worth discussing to improve the quality of life-for me, perhaps for others, too. And, later, hopefully for other people I can connect with.