Nice Girl syndrome... so true

[Dunkopf]

What's with HS and college kids and hugs? I've observed them hugging every time they see each other. The boys look like they're practicing for something bigger and would like to do more than hug. The girls tend to look like they are tolerating it but would rather not. It's strange to watch. Kind of like the cheek to cheek air kisses that women do sometimes.

 

[Nicola]

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I don't tolerate it well that's the thing, I personally even don't get it why they hug eachother upon seeing eachother, as someone in that age bracket, I guess im just one of the odd ones

 

[KristyHall]

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I only hug some people.

it take s a while before i will hug you. but when i hug someone it is a big one. when I am sad I lOVE big hugs from the people I care about. If I don't know you don't touch me.

 

[chickened]

I think we can safely say we all do things that annoy others and it would seem not getting offended would go along way in the effort towards harmony... if that is desired.

 

[redhen]

About this nice girl stuff...
Some girls just LIKE the drama...period. They get in relationships with these scum bags and then whine and cry to everyone in world about it, waah..waah. They LOVE AND FEED off the ""ooh you poor thing!" attention they get when they tell everyone how bad they are treated..... how bad he treats her, how she cant do anything, cant HAVE anything she wants(i.e. chickens..lol), how he controls the money, how he stays out at night with his "friends", how he pushes her around and smacks her and calls her nasty names, (but thats only sometimes when he cant control his temper, because hes such a sweet guy, ..really ) **

** .... Bah! I have no sympathy for them because i TRULY believe they feed on it. They have some sort of mental problem that makes them NEED and FEED off that drama in their lives. I say,.. Hey, if you want to live like that...goood for YOU! Just shut the he&& up about it! You ARE creating and ALLOWING your own problems.

What REALLY ticks me off?? When they have kids and expect their innocent children to suffer along with them. Makes me SO SICK! Those are NOT mothers!

Just my opinion, as usual..

 

[punk-a-doodle]

There are those types, but there are also very quiet females who never complain who have been taught from a very young age that they are to keep any dissent or opinion to themselves. Not much is sadder to me then people who never even consider that they can stand up for their personal rights (even to horrid physical or mental abuse) and that doing so doesn't make them bad people.

 

[Junkmanme]

People see what they WANT to see.

(The experience of 63 years.)

AND, their perceptions are different. My perception of this topic (as a result of my Life Experiences) is that it is HOGWASH.

Example:

Ask a man where he got his hair cut, he will say something like "Joe's Barber Shop".

Ask a woman where she got her hair cut, she will say something like "What's wrong with it?"

I think it is more educational to do you own observing rather than let the T.V. writers do it for you.

just one man's opinion,
-Junkmanme-

 

[redhen]

Heres the thing...if you are an adult woman and CHOOSE to live like that..i say its FINE. Its YOUR choice. Really..
But when you have kids, you HAVE to be a parent FIRST, those kids come first. NOT your twisted needs and wants!
If you stay in that abusive relationship and you have children, than you are no better than the abusive man. Your children ARE being abused..even if its just mentally, and you ARE allowing it.
Drives me NUTS to see or hear about! Gah!

 

[Junkmanme]

 

[chickened]

Ditto Redhen.