Lynzi, there is wonderful land in the sort of SE area of NY. Of course, land here is priced better, but it sounds like your husband is a talented guy who is climbing the ladder, and may have to be mobile. I have roots in the Peekskille area, and my grandparents lived near Poughkeepsie, and I've driven to SW CT since the 60s. I am sure there are lots possibilities out there for you, the land is beautiful. And the folks on the other NY thread seem wonderful. They refer to those who live north of NYC as being Upstate, though, so they talk funny. Pawling, Pleasant Valley, Brewster, Middleburg, Goshen, that whole area near West Point. . .Or you could look over the border into CT. Maybe check which would be more advantageous tax wise. I know my parents had to pay CT income tax and since my dad worked in NYC, they had to pay those taxes too. When he worked out of the office like in Milwaukee they could not pay taxes for those days. All very confusing to me, but might be relevant in your situation.
On the other thread, One woman has a beautiful home she must move from, to TX! Good luck, and keep us posted! You will do what is best for your family, and in each stage you can create a menagerie that will suit you and that situation. You won't have to be stuck in a situation that is not what you want for the rest of time. Like bad soil or too dry, bad terrain...you will have opportunities for change.
On the other thread, One woman has a beautiful home she must move from, to TX! Good luck, and keep us posted! You will do what is best for your family, and in each stage you can create a menagerie that will suit you and that situation. You won't have to be stuck in a situation that is not what you want for the rest of time. Like bad soil or too dry, bad terrain...you will have opportunities for change.