my rules are -
harm none, if it can be helped. If you can't help it, try to minimise the hurt
be excellent to each other
and something I got from a song's lyrics -
"still the grass grows tall in the dream fields, and after all is said and done the only thing that ever matters is to love and to be loved"
just about every other personal rule I have grows out of those three.
Oh, and one I try to live by (don't often succeed, but I try...) I got from Adam Ant - "ridicule is nothing to be scared of".
as for all the "proper pagans do this" type stuff, well I'm just not interested in their rules dictating my freedom. Same goes for the christians.
I go my own way.